I learned this lesson the hard way...I stopped caring for my mind. I stopped with a false sense of wellness. < I stopped because life was good. < My marriage was good, my kids were good, I'd just finished writing and publishing my first book...there was NOTHING telling me that I was about to make a life changing decision. There were NO red flags...or so I thought... < In hindsight...the red flag was my ego...because there weren't any red flags my ego said go for it...stop doing what was prescribed to you...you don't need anyone's help...you got this... < That started a chain of events that led to my demise. In no time at all...everything I had worked for over the last 10 years was destroyed...my marriage...my relationships...friendships...my image...my confidence...my self-esteem...EVERYTHING...was either destroyed or GREATLY damaged. < My mental health or my mental well-being on a scale of 1 to 10...was a 0. I probably should've been hospitalized. I'm just speaking facts...not for sympathy...maybe a little for empathy...you don't know what you don't know...I had no clue what was coming... < The positive of this breakdown is that I've become receptive to healing, recovery, and therapy. I'm learning how to ask for help. At times it's extremely difficult to hold my head up high from the embarrassment, shame, and guilt I feel and caused or brought unto others. < I keep going because there are a few pair of eyes watching and wondering...is this BPD thing really real...is he going to blow up again...is he going to quit treatment...how will he bounce back...what will he say...what will he do...how will I know if he is better...is he just making excuses...he won't make it...he can't do it...don't trust him... < I don't blame the skepticism. I welcome it. I'm a HUNT and we don't ever quit... < #love#family#lifecoach#mentalillness#mentalhealth#mentalwellness#imbpd#bpd#winning
My favourite rose is flowering. . It is wonky and certainly not a perfect specimen. But it is just lovely. . The search for perfection is a waste of time. It’s a trap and keeps you stuck being disappointed with where you are right now. . But all you have is right now. . Today I spent the whole day cleaning and tidying our house for our air B and B guests while packing for our time away in Pembrokeshire. We then drove for over four hours to our holiday apartment for the next three days. It was a hard day, and long. But we arrived and ate pizza and drank beer by the river. And it was good. . Then we came back and I felt the pinch of comparison as I saw other people’s achievements here on insta. I felt a bit left behind, a bit sad and resentful. Then I remembered comparison is a trap. And the quest for perfection is a trap and I stopped and listened to Donny Hathaway. And life was good again. . Don’t wait for perfection. And don’t look at others’ lives and compare your reality with their curated highlights. Be where you are. Accept it for what it is, the good and the bad. That’s the only real thing. . Big love people.
Il muro della gentilezza diventa virale e si diffonde nel mondo dove chi non ne ha bisogno può lasciare cappotti e altri indumenti a disposizione di chi è in difficoltà e non ha niente per coprirsi. Lanciata in Iran, l'iniziativa di solidarietà chiamata “muro della gentilezza” ha spopolato sul web e in pochissimo tempo si è diffusa. cos’è il “muro della gentilezza”? È una bellissima iniziativa che sta nascendo sempre in più città e che arriva dall’Iran, è un’idea che ci parla di solidarietà, gentilezza e gesti apparentemente piccoli ma che per qualcuno possono significare molto. A Mashhad, una metropoli da 2,5 milioni di abitanti nel nord est dell’Iran dove i senzatetto sono ancora moltissimi, qualcuno ha appeso ad un muro dei semplici ganci e un cartello con la scritta:“Se non ne hai bisogno lascialo. Se ne hai bisogno prendilo”. È infatti questo lo slogan di questa iniziativa che vuole essere un aiuto concreto per le persone che vivono per strada o per chi è talmente in difficoltà da non potersi permettere un cappotto o una sciarpa. Sono iniziate ad apparire giacche e indumenti caldi e il passaparola sui social è stato velocissimo. Altre città hanno creato muri colorati con ganci e cartelli condividendo l’idea e invitando tutti a ripetere il gesto. Un muro, usato quasi sempre per dividere, è diventato invece un simbolo di unione. http://www.italiachecambia.org/2019/02/il-muro-della-gentilezza-diventa-virale-si-diffonde-mondo/ #fatadispettosa#emozioni#laughteryoga#instagood#instalike#instaphoto#instacool#instahappy#instamoment#instalife#perledisaggezza#saluteebenessere#healthandwellness#mentalwellness#mindfullness#wellness#health#mentalstrength#mentalhealth#healthymind#healthylifestyle#wildlife#illustration#abstract#love#lovethissong#cloud#animation#landscape#business
Well this was me tonight.... I've felt aggy and irritable all day. So I got home had a take away. And literally lost it with myself. I dont even know what's up. I ugly cried so hard. I feel upset with myself, angry at myself, disappointed. A million things ran through my head on why and I still dont know. I know I'm only human and shouldn't be so hard on my self. #uglycry#upset#mentalwellness#cryitout#pickmyselfup#needahug#crying
"There are no contests in the Art of Peace. A true warrior is invincible because they contest with nothing. Defeat means to defeat the mind of contention that we harbor within." —Morihei Ueshiba, Founder of Aikido⠀ ⠀ Your resentments tie you to the objects of your resentment. And they weigh you down as you drag them along with you through life.⠀ —⠀ What tangled threads do you carry within you?⠀ —⠀ The original Aramaic translation of the word ”forgive" means “to untie” and return things to their state of original freedom.⠀ —⠀ What have you tied yourself to? ⠀ —⠀ All those knots keep you from having a renewed vision. Untie yourself.⠀ ⠀ #shiftsparkers#imaginedifferently
. i love it so much that my study program gives me the space to explore my own creative process, my abilities and depth. this project developed into something so beautiful and empowering (check out how it started in my highlights "art therapy"). i basically built a canvas (130cm x 210cm) from scratch and painted different layers of emotions on it. a lot of things i do during a creative proces happen intuitively, without a specific plan. i start somewhere (depending on the project starting is more or less easy) and while i'm creating, the thing i'm creating reminds me of something or makes me feel a certain way, which i then start to paint. it builds up a flow within me, which is visble on the canvas too. this flow is so healing. it washes away insecurities, anxiety, helplessness and so on. most of the times i'm creating, i'm also listening to music, which helps the flow immensely. those moments belong to the moments where i feel the clostest to the source. raw, authentic, vulnerable, powerful and peaceful at the same time and i have this strong sense of trust. i try to save this feeling in my heart, so i can carry it with me throughout the day. may it be an anchor in turbulent times 💫🎨 . #marimilui#mentalwellness#mentalhealth#mindfulness#intuition#consciouscreator#lightworker#healingjourney#artistsoninstagram#paintingoftheday#acrylicpainting#intuitiveartist#artheals#spiritualart#spiritualgrowth
“The truth, I still don’t have a lot of self-confidence. There are times when I am quite discouraged by my inadequacies. I do, however, have confidence in my environment. When it comes to the things I own, the clothes I wear, the house I live in, and the people in my life, when it comes to my environment as a whole, although it may not seem particularly special to anyone else, I am confident and extremely grateful to be surrounded by what I love, by things and people that are, each and every one, special, precious, and exceedingly dear to me. The things and people that bring me joy support me. They help give me the confidence that I will be all right. I want to help others who feel the way I did, who lack self-confidence and find it hard to open their heart to others, to see how much support they receive from the space they live in, and the things that surround them.” - Marie Kondo ☀️ The perfect reminder our attitude isn’t everything. Willpower and outlook aren’t everything. Without the right environment, energy, and resources, we’ll be left wondering why we aren’t enough. BUT YOU ARE. When a flower doesn’t grow, you change the environment, not the flower.🌷🌹💐🌸🌼🌻🌺
As for life you only get one. Try to fill it with love and loads of great fun. Now that being said it's not always a walk in the park. Sometimes you'll get down and feel trapped in the dark. And you've just gotta feel it and trust a thing you should know. Those feelings will pass and new ones will grow. So like all things that grow even a seed. Give yourself love and all that you need. Feed yourself well and to your body be kind. Your start to feel a shift in your mind.
PTW, suicide/SH. I have only tagged this one with MH related tags, as I don't want ppl reading unless they are prepared. Today, on paper, should have been an ok day. Somehow it didn't turn out that way. I've been anxious and a bit listless all day, and struggled with concentrating on tasks at work. Sure, have talked to people during the day, but it feels like I'm a bit cut off from the world. Stuff went a bit wrong this evening... I'm not going to go into exactly what happened bc that isn't really needed. The long and short of it was that an anxious and fearful me ended up going out for a long walk, carrying a shopping bag with long handles bc I needed to get some food before I got back home. I walked up to the castle, but walked through the woods rather than on the road. I had figured that would be safer, as there's no pavement. What I hadn't reckoned on though was my over-alert mind. As I was walking through the woods, my mind started projecting images of my body hanging lifelessly from trees, dangling from the long straps of the shopping bag. It's almost strange seeing such things like they're flashbacks to an event that never happened. It's not the first time something similar has happened, but usually involving SH, rather than suicide. Now, rationally, I don't think I would try suicide like that, not that way at least. I already have a different plan, and I try to make sure I don't have the items I would need present at home. Think of it as an attempt to buy me time. I pushed forward to get to the edge of the woods, so I could be in the clearing with the castle. It's much more open, and less trees around for a start. I don't need my mind trying to push me towards more negative things right now. I was startled by a small dog, which drove me onwards bc I didn't wanna met it's owner. The flip side? I got to see a partridge, a duck playing king of the castle, and a pleasant roaming in a field of sheep.. And yes, I still got the food. #mentalwellness
Do you believe in this statement? Do you believe that your mental health affects your mental wealth? I know I sure do! To me this is cannot be disputed. To me this is absolutely truth. Because for me, this IS my truth. In July 2013, I was diagnosed with moderate depression and 8 months after that my therapist told me that I was one symptom away from being diagnosed with PTSD as well. My mental health account was at $0 and about to go in the red real quick. In that season, I had begun to believe that I was so broken that nothing would ever be able mend me back together. In that season, I had begun to believe that my undoing made me totally and completely unworthy. In that season, I had begun to believe that my words were null and void and that their power and weight had long since gone. You see in that season, the quality of my mental health massively affected the quantity of my mental wealth. I had become stuck in an orphaned spirit, full of brokenness, hopelessness and lies. But then, one day, in a stand still moment of time, my desire to live my life in the green, came rushing back into my spirit, into my being. In that moment I began to chose to see the world differently, less cynical and more grateful. Like this photo, I began to look higher. I began to scope out the view at 37,000 feet instead of staying at sea level with and immense and unending fear of the horizon. I began to seek out who Father God called me to be, and my sweet, when you BELIEVE He is your FATHER you suddenly realize you cannot be an orphan, you must only be called His SON (or daughter 😉) YOU were created for more than the brokenness you feel trapped in. You were designed to move and grow, not to be stagnant and stuck. YOU were created from a royal King... YOU my DARLING, you were crafted to be a QUEEN. Let's raise our mental bank accounts by commenting below with one thing you LOVE about yourself that reminds you that you are a Queen!! Then tag you bestie and share
Body size is not indicative of health... I've been reading a lot this month and so many of my beliefs have come crumbling down around me. A lot of "good food vs. bad food," body positivity and its relation to fatphobia and "thin privilege", metabolism, honoring your hunger, the bounce-back effect of dieting, talk of "lifestyles" and "balance," the fact that most women aim to be medically underweight, children dieting, diabetes-related eating disorders, people who convince themselves they like horrible things just because they're "healthy"... oh man, the brainwashing is REAL. So many of these lessons have really hit me in the gut (pun intended), but it became extra personal to me to hear that it's recommended to move in ways that make me feel good. ...my classmates will remember me and P.E., ILY Coach Judy and Coach Clyde, but I don't think we ever did things in P.E. that "made me feel good" ... And I feel like, we really need to stop feeding people the idea that "all exercise is good for you," because it's really not. Your mental health matters. 🤯 And I've worked so hard on my mental health... it drives me crazy to think that I have tortured myself with diet and unpleasant exercise under the guise that being thinner will make me happier, and then accomplished the exact opposite. It feels obvious to me now, but how isn't it common knowledge that restriction makes you binge and crave? And depressed? I learned that none of my stomach problems were about food, but about stress. ...also you know what's stressful? Dieting. And the pressure of accomplishing the "right amount" of exercise. 🥵 The last time I participated in a ball sport was when I was forced to take volleyball in college, and I "mysteriously" developed a stress-induced allergic reaction which I've never had again... 🧐 To end on a positive note: I love yoga even though it's not making me thinner. It's making my arms bigger because I am killing those chaturangas, which makes me