And this is why i do what I do: #sexualmeditationtherapy is so important and a key factor in eliminating TSE =toxic sexual energy and untimely raising your sacral/sexual vibration, side note: did you know that a person can literally be contagious because they are contaminated with negative sexual energy so pay attention to your mind body and soul after sexual encounters...
So I've talked before about how the chemical cocktail that results in women's brains and bodies from goooood sex can be a pretty risky side effect. Orgasm and it's opioid/endorphin release, the way the ANS gets to really like a particular someone's touch, and the delivery of that dopamine high from anticipation teamed with the oxytocin kicker post-O... that's all a recipe for attachment, which can manifest as an addiction. The withdrawals from such a fix are very real and the oxytocin hangover can last an unfair amount of time once that lover has disappeared from our lives. Naomi Wolf brings up an interesting point regarding this that may not be all that popular but is backed by some solid science, and I know many of us can relate to... "We are living in a post-feminist world that tells women to just 'fuck like men' - that doing so is a sign of liberation - and encourages young women to engage in 'friends with benefits' relationships as an act of self-confidence, to roll out of bed with the same casual carelessness that men traditionally demonstrated. That male-model ideal of not-caring, take-it-or-leave-it sexuality, is, I argue, setting up yet another impossible ideal into which women are supposed to shoehorn their actual needs, at some violence to themselves. But sexually addictive behaviour - or should I say, addictedness to a lover who is 'right' for the autonomic nervous system - in women is hardwired." What she means by this is that, though I'm sure some women may thrive on this approach to their sexuality at times in their lives, it is usually not doing us any favours to try to be casually unaffected by sex and intimacy. Because this is seriously playing with fire when you consider how we are wired and the hormone-driven addiction that we so easily develop when we share intimacy and orgasmic energy with another. The bath of drugs your brain gets from this can render a woman unable to think and behave rationally, 'get over' the lover, or 'snap out of it'.
This year we supported @fpacharity's Sexual Health Week which was on consent. The conversation about consent doesn't stop there though, and it doesn't stop when your partner consents to one kind of sex or sexual act with you. Consent should be a continuous conversation between you and your partner - it doesn't have to be difficult. Here are a few phrases you could try to make sure you and your partner are on the same page throughout your sexual experiences: Is this ok? Does that feel good? Should we carry on like this? Would you like to try something else? Can I touch you here? Would you like to try this? What should you do if your partner isn't checking in with you and is trying something you're not into during sex. You could have been quite happy earlier and are worried about spoiling the mood. First things first, if you're not comfortable, the mood is already spoiled. Ways to broach it with your partner might vary according to what's happening - you could try something like "This is uncomfortable for me. I was really turned on by what we were doing earlier, I'd like more of that". You could also say something like "I'd like to stop doing this". Then you can follow up with a chat after to discuss how you'd like to approach trying new things in future - having conversations about sex when you're not actually having it can be a really helpful way of talking about your mutual likes and establishing what you're comfortable with. . . . #consent#sexualwellbeing#healthyrelationships#communicationiskey#letstalkaboutsex#metoo#timesup#boundaries#oktosay#nomeansno#youdoyou
“Expiration dates are for milk, not pleasure” sex expert Joan Price has something to say about sex over 50. “We need to unlearn our society’s attitude that only young, firm bodies are desirable. We are capable of sexual pleasure at any age, and we are also capable of inspiring sexual desire. If we feel sexy and see ourselves as sexy, we project a juicy attitude that is appealing and desirable. Our negative body image is our own worst enemy—that’s what we need to battle, not the wrinkles or sagging parts!” 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻Great read by Isabelle Kohn @harpersbazaar.com #sexeducation#letstalkaboutsex#loveyourbody#healthyaging