I love this. #iamnotok with this either. I am a survivor of abuse from an ex partner. It took 3 years for me to finally realize I needed to leave that relationship. I loved and was so in love with that person, that I didn’t want to face the reality that it was more than a toxic relationship. @reallindaperry you inspire me in so many ways. You are so freaking amazing. Thank you for being you!
Evan Rachel Wood é uma atriz estadunidense mais conhecida pelo filme Aos Treze e pela série Westworld. Em 2016, em entrevista à revista Rolling Stone, revelou que foi estuprada duas vezes, sendo uma por um namorado. Desde então, a atriz, que já era voz ativa em relação aos direitos dos LGBTs - Evan é bissexual -, passou a ser uma das artistas mais ativas na luta pelos direitos da mulher nos EUA, além de falar abertamente sobre o Transtorno do Estresse Pós-Traumático (TEPT). Em 2018, testemunhou no Congresso americano para defender lei contra agressão sexual e, agora em 2019, compartilhou mais sobre suas experiências sobre abusos em prol do movimento #iamnotok, que busca dar luz aos casos de violência doméstica. 📷: divulgação da internet #cantodasminas#conhecaumaminaincrivel#evanrachelwood#iamnotok#emponderamento#feminismo#violenciadomestica#sobreviventes#empondereduasmulheres#tept
🌸Problems? What problems?🌸 . The transition from daycare to preschool has gone smoothly but oh boy, have we got our hands full at home 😅. Hello meltdowns and sleepdeprivation 🙋🏻♀️ long time, no see 🤦🏻♀️. . When people ask me how Marie is doing in preschool and i tell them she’s doing great at school but not so great at home, all people hear is ‘she’s doing great’. Nobody sees or wants to hear about how the troubles start as soon as we close the gate at school. Nobody sees that she cries all the way home. Nobody sees that i can’t turn on the radio because it has to be quiet for her. Nobody sees her walking hours on the tips of her toes. Nobody sees her clacking her tongue or licking her lips, the meltdowns, tantrums, sleepless nights and the everyday struggle. Nobody sees she keeps everything botteled up and releases it as soon as we’re alone. And that’s just how Marie feels 😳That is 1 member of a family of 5... . Before you start your advice on the matter... Yes, i know! I know our kids don’t have a serious illness like cancer! I know they’re not dieing! I know every child has troubles adjusting after starting school! I know YOU don’t see the problem! I know your kid is without diapers & sleeps, eats and functions ok. I know i should be glad my kid is highfunctioning. and so on... . What you might not realise is that your opinion and remarks are actually really offensive and hurtfull. I know you can’t understand what we are going through and you’re trying to make me feel better but that’s not the way to go 😉😅. If you wanna make me feel better but you don’t know how or what to say... cake is the answer! It always is! I’ll appreciate that a lot more👌🏼😘❤️. . #justwannasay#iamnotok#butthatsok#iwillgetthere#weallwill#butfirstcoffee#andcakelotsofcake . . #autism#autismspectrum#autismspectrumdisorder#autismjourney#onthespectrum#lifeonthespectrum#livingwithautism
Whenever you feel you want to cry do, whenever you feel you want to scream do. Whenever you feel you want to laugh do even if its not the place for it. Whenever you feel saying I AM NOT OK; say it, you owe it to yourself, and remember, it's ok not to be ok. For full article: Link is in the bio #itsokaynottobeokay#mentalillness#mentalhealthawareness#iamnotok
#triggerwarning I said, 'maybe we shouldn't do this' and he said 'okay' at first but then started rubbing himself on me, and as soon as he did I dissociated (I was in my head trying to get myself to do or say something, the next moment I'd be outside of my body, then I did not know anything or where I was, then for a moment i was aware I was having sex but disoriented and confused still and i start moving but heard him tell me to stop, which made me leave my body again, the rest is blank) ..I didn't report it mainly because my counselor said theres a lot of gray.. but I dissociated, which is the body's way of coping when being triggered by a percieved threat and due to cptsd. #iamnotok#maybeisnotconsent
We need to talk (and listen) more about psychological abuse. The emotional bruises often take much longer to heal than physical ones because they never see the light of day. I wrote about my own experience in my book and it helped heal me - in part because it brought me close to my shame and embarrassment at being in that relationship in the first place. Part of me didn’t want anyone to know how bad it was, how I’d felt hypnotized for years and ignored all the red flags and gaslighting. “I’m a strong, smart woman and I should have known better,“ I kept thinking. But here’s the thing: most of us strong, smart people are susceptible at least once. We give people we love the benefit of the doubt. We don’t want to believe we’re in an abusive situation and we keep trying to make it better because we know that part of loving someone is doing the best you can to grow with them. Please remember that THEIR BEHAVIOR IS NOT A REFLECTION OF YOUR VALUE. So when you’re ready to leave, please leave the shame behind, too. Talk about it with someone kind. Give yourself credit for your big heart and good effort. Heal, grieve, and take your time with self-love. Ask for help and compassion. Because I promise: it gets better. I believe you — I believe in you. . . . #iamnotok#domesticviolence#gaslighting#emotionalabuse#resilience#shame#heal @iamnotokmvmt
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I recently saw a post by @esmebianco about the #iamnotok movement as well as had a deep discussion with two true friends about how I was in a relationship once where I was hit on a daily basis. I was much stronger than her so I would laugh at her but that made it worse and with that, it took me a long time to realise I was in an abusive relationship. It took these interactions to realise it in other relationships. Someone would raise their hand out of joy, I would flinch. I wasn't afraid of the impact but I was used to it. Abuse happens to people we would never think of. Keep your eyes open. Every movement counts.
No filter needed. . Right here in this frying pan is my attempt at two very runny, messy, undercooked, not-so-over-easy eggs. . This is as good as it gets as far as my Debbie Domestic Goddess gig in the kitchen goes. My kids mock me, a little, or a lot. But—they have eggs in their belly’s. And I know they are fed—Albeit from a filter free frying pan that will now need to soak for 3 hours (plus) to remove the shards of egg scum. . Who gives a shit!? I don't. I do lots of other things well. Egg making is not one of them. I also hate making dinner. Like...really hate it. We have our 7-8 very creative-free dishes. And I make them over and over. Taco Tuesday comes at least twice a week around this place. Three out of four of us are really happy about it. One of us. Not so much. . My friend, @lizziepetrone wrote a beautiful story about this messiness. You need to check her out, if you haven’t already done so. She talks about how we all say we are “fine” and based on our filtered highlight reel, it really appears to be true. I’m not always OK. Just like I suspect you aren’t, either. Life is tough at times. And, these eggs pretty much sum up how my mornings go sometimes. Because—life. I make messy eggs. . But I am also really good at playing catch and body surfing with my kids, talking about hard stuff, and making sure they know I have their backs. . How about we all share more of our filter-free moments. Then. We can collectively feel less alone. We can feel more of a sisterhood in our messes. Thanks for the reminder, Liz. This is why we tell our stories. Not to share perfection but to promote solidarity in the moments, days, years we are not fine. . . . #militaryspouses#militaryfamily#filterfree#eggs#foodphotography#becourageous#iamnotok#writersofinstagram#writerscommunity#sisterhood#bemessy
#iamnotok I was in a relationship that was manipulative and sick. I was emotionally abused regularly to where I didn't even realize it was happening. I was accused of being a whore if I wanted to wear makeup out of the house and it is years later and I still rarely wear it and don't know how to put it on right anymore. I was threatened with suicide when I tried to leave and would have risked homelessness if I did so when I tried to, they caused problems with family and friends to keep me coming back and control where I was. I was raped, and was threatened out of telling the cops. I was cheated on and made to feel like I was crazy when I saw the conversations. Alienated from close friends. Alienated from family. Trust issues to last me a lifetime where I feel like I'm better off staying alone. @iamnotokmvmt #imnotokay#emotionalabuse#therapy#mentalhealth#itsokaynottobeokay
Domestic violence can happen to anyone in any community regardless of age, economic status, race, religion, nationality or educational background. In the United States, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner. #iamnotok THAT is not okay. @iamnotokmvmt
"I always hear 'If somebody hits you, just leave.' What they don't talk about is the person that hit you is someone you love very much, and for a long time has been very nice, and very charismatic and very sweet, and has this amazing side to them, and you don't want to believe that's who they are. And it progressively gets worse." - @evanrachelwood ______ Evan Rachel Wood is a advocate, actor, and singer who uses her platform to speak publicly about domestic violence and sexual assault. In 2018, Wood testified before Congress for the Sexual Assault Survivors Bill of Rights. More recently, she has been involved with the @iamnotokmvmnt, which encourages survivors and people affected by domestic violence to speak up and share their stories. Evan is a powerful voice for survivors across the country, and we want to thank her for her tireless advocacy and support of Day One. Evan, we are proud to call you a partner in the fight to end dating violence. #iamnotok#womenshistorymonth#evanrachelwould
WHEN THE DIVINE BOPS YOU OVER THE HEAD: Working w/ the divine, an experience. . . These energies right now especially with the recent CMEs, solar storms, & Mercury retrograde in Pisces is pretty intense. Are you feeling it? . . Talk about stirring up the muck at the pits of our shadows. Right? But ... the energy started before this increasing momentum over the last few years. . . More recently, I have been finding myself highly critical & frustrated not w/ the toxic people in our mist, but w/ good people who are unknowingly or possibly knowingly complicit to dismissing bad &/or rewarding bad behavior to victim blame to spiritually bypassing the internal root work needed to heal our society & planet. . . It's something I'm aware of & have been looking into my own shadows understanding where I still need to do some more of my own internal work. . . So the other day, I was outside in the springlike vibe walking my 14yo sheltie & I started really being hard on myself for being so judgemental & hard on these bystanders. You know those who know unethical &/or bad behavior happens but chooses to align w/ abusive, controlling, narcissistic, and/or sociopathic peeps instead of taking their power to stop the perpetrator & helping those wrongfully harmed. . . The minute I started having these triggering thoughts in my mind on this tranquil morning, 3 hearts instantly popped up in the snow. . . A subsequent heart appeared after I was questioning whether or not I should write about this. . . Right after I recognized this, a woodpecker noisily grabbed my attention the minute I grabbed my phone & started writing about this experience I noted to myself. I instantly smiled. . . The woodpecker was reminding me to honor this cycle I'm in and the deadwood I'm pecking at. Everything I've been working on over the last 14yrs is about to pay off. . . As I was finishing w/ my walk, I was greeted w/ 2 loud crows flying around me & again grabbed my attention. . . I see crows associated
I support all survivors as they share their stories of domestic violence. I stand against domestic violence. And #iamnotok with the fact that 1in 4 women and 1 un 7 men have been victims of severe physcal violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime. Please stand with me. @iamnotokmvmt @melissabenoist
Yes. Yes. Yes. So important to know when not engage and walk away. . . What I have learned through my journey since my healing began in 2005, is that we can remain a victim of what has happened to us or we can take it as a way for our soul to grow and shift our lives in a healthier way. . . This is a concept many of us survivors struggle with that keeps us trapped subconsciously in victim mode never reaching to a place of empowerment. . . These toxic humans are . • energy vampires • energy zappers • thieves of your inner peace and joy I would add ... leave the playground on your terms with . • head held high . • confident non-attachment . • knowing your self worth • your personal power • your personal truth • your personal energy intact like you just kicked a flea to the curb that is irrelevant in your version of reality or else What could happen is you risk taking that toxic energy with you and subconsciously it festers in core and life. Healing is a journey... not a destination. I am here to help guide you. . . With appreciation, Laura . . Available for speaking opportunities, workshop fascilitations, events, retreats and private sessions. www.laurahealingwithspirit.com . . . . #gaslighting#healingabuse#healingtrauma#empoweringsurvivors#dvawareness#narcissisticabuse#mentalhealth#survivorstories#domesticviolenceawareness#timesup#woke#speaker#businesswoman#bosslady#bostonma#soulpreneur#spiritualhealth#healing#energyvampires#empath#iamnotok
I'm going thru lots of growing pains right now & on the verge of a major breakthrough ... the kind I've waited a lifetime for & will share another time. . 💫 I've built my business over the last 15yrs purely by providing quality service, word of mouth & reputation. . 💫 A couple weeks ago I took the next step in preparing for this pending breakthrough by having my photos professionally done by @verdistudio . . 💫 I haven't had my photos professionally done in over 29 year back in the days when I modeled & did commercials in NYC & Philly. . 💫 I felt suddenly old and fat even though I know I'm not. . . Now I'm not somebody who is really weight focused, but health conscious. It strictly comes from watching 2 members of my family who were extraordinary really thin & put on enormous weight after the age of 50 that they were required to have gastric bypass surgery. . . So my weight concerns are legitimate but I didn't let my anxiety or fears stop me. 💫 Today, I am making herstory with some dragon magic in tow. I am no longer a victim of my past, but a badass. . 🐉 I am the dragon spiritual warrior that burns away fear buried deep in my shadows, shields my human vessel from harm, and stands strong in my truth and raw authentic power, and move swiftly against those who oppress or victimize another. . . See me. . Feel me . Bare witness to the transformation and magic of dragon. Want some? . . Stay tuned for more 💫 AND so, I bless my junk ... I bless all who caused me harm & I mourn all I lost. In doing so, I find the buried treasure residing within me all along ... buried in my own shadows. . . To read more on this bless your junk series, visit http://laurahealingwithspirit.com/5-reasons-why-you-need-to-bless-your-junk/ With appreciation, Laura www.laurahealingwithspirit.com . . . . . #blessyourjunk#womanbusinessowner#womensleadership#spiritualwarrior#spirituality#spiritualdirection#womenshistorymonth#healingwithspirit#empowerment#riseup
I have the privilege to usually manage my own time and days ~ at a price! So now (with many thanks to great inspirational girls such as @thepurposeofhiba @kri.pe etc - hope you don't mind that I am "outing you" 🙈) I will try as best as my body and mind let me to focus more on my body and mind. Make Friday a Friyay! Namaste! 🙏 #iamnotok #yoga#yogibear#namaste#friday#bodyandmind#mindfullness#inhaleexhale#candles#youtube#morningyoga#candles#freshstart#sarahbethyoga#mentalhealth#yogawithadriene#yogawithkassandra#breath#goodsamaritans#youseeoneperson#health#disease#chronic#chronicillness#uc#ulcerativecolitis#ulcerøskolitt#myatheniagravis#staystrong#ptsd#violentrelationship
Early in my healing path I didn't quite understand this concept as I was conditioned to be lesser than a dog ... do as I was told. Be as society dictates. Believe what is advertised to my brain. Or face enslaved imprisonment of my mind and body It's the ultimate #gaslighting that's hard to unravel and shift our own biochemistry and neurotransmitters in our brains. . . However, with one step in front of the other, determined, undisciplined discipline, searching for ways to become whole understanding in order to do that, my spirit must also heal. . . I eventually broke through my terrors of self gaslighting abuse ... getting off the hamster wheel, and listening to the whispers of the divine within me to guide me. . . After all, I was betrayed and traumatized by so called trusted sources. So who can I trust? No one. This forced me to go within and within the Spirit world to help me break this pattern. . . So for some who knew me before, during, or shortly after the abuse, I didn't change. I woke up. . . Once woke, you can't go back. So today I stand in pure form. Authentic. Real. Raw. Imperfect. True. I am me. I am not who you want me to be. . . I stand in my own power unapologetically. . . Dragon fulfill me with your strength, protection, courage, and breath of fire that burns away all false realities, illusions, fog of my mind and body. . . Today I stand before you as a badass dragon spiritual warrior here to burn away the illusions of our old belief systems. . . Hear my dragon roar. . Feel my dragon breathe the burning of truth and purity See my strength. . . Feel my protection. . . I am me. . . With love and appreciation, Laura www.laurahealingwithspirit.com @laura_healing_with_spirit . . . . . #dragonmedicine#dragon#quotes#inspiration#wellness#mindset#boston#selfcare#healing#empowerment#spirituality#takebackyourpower#riseup#innerchild#divinefeminine#womensempowerment#woke#spiritualhealth#spiritualgrowth#spiritualawakening
We accept the love we think we deserve... 💔 I dag er det Verdensdag for Psykisk Helse - så se hverandre litt ekstra, gi et smil og fortell at du er der! #theperksofbeingawallflower#quote#bestquote#weacceptthelovewethinkwedeserve#loveyourself#youaremorethanyouthinkyouare#loveeachothers#youarenotbornavictim#peoplecreatesvictims#worldsmentalhealthday#mentalhealthday#mentalhealth#mentalhealth#verdensdagformentalhelse#mentalhelse#psykiskhelse#verdensdagforpsykiskhelse#stephenchobsky#youareimportant#bookquotes#stopmobbing#iamnotok
I går var #verdensdagforforebyggingavselvmord ~ Ta ekstra vare på dere selv og de rundt dere; se hverandre, still opp og finn noe som gleder dere i høstmørket ⚘❤ @aschehoug #iamnotok#forebygging#elskdegselv#stoppmobbing#sederundt#stillopp#venner#kinderwhore#mariakjosfonn#aschehoug#noenarrerstørreennandre#sehverandre#sehverandregjørenforskjell#godeorddørsist#elsekåssfuruseth#sehverandreihøstmørket#finnglede#komdegut#selyset#psykiskhelse
Ingen trenger følgere, folk trenger gode mennesker med moral og selvrespekt. Ta ansvar for dine handlinger og be om forlatelse. Det beste med Instagram er at man kan lure samfunnet - til å virke lykkelig, oppegående og leve livet. Vi kan legge ut eldre bilder. Og siden Akevittfestivalen 2017 er jeg en av dem. Fra da har livet mitt bestått av tomhet og mørke, og totalt uten opplevelser. Jeg har 4 ganger vært ute av huset og tatt en fjelltur - om vi ikke snakker om terapi, psykolog, politi og advokater. Jeg ble knust, og jeg heler ikke. Bestevenner og venner vendte seg i mot meg - sannheten var og er ubeleilig og ubehagelig. Heldigvis har jeg noen få, og jeg elsker dere. Jeg elsker også han som satte meg i denne situasjonen, men jeg kjenner ikke igjen han eller hans nye nivå av psykopati eller faren hans (min svigerfar i 2,5 år!) som angrep min far hjemme hos meg uprovosert. 2,5 år med kjærlighet og samboerskap har jeg av han jeg elsker blitt kastet som søppel. Kastet som siste gang han skadet meg; nesten naken i 5 minus, slengt svevende ut av huset. Og som en bonus ser det ut til at jeg spontanaborterte av situasjonen. Og kampen er nær umulig. Hvor mange ganger har ikke de som sto meg nær kalt meg "gal" og "det var min egen skyld"? Til og med politiet sier det er min egen skyld for at jeg godtroende gjorde som eksen min manipulerende sa og utsatte anmeldelsen for hans fordel. For han sa jo han elsket meg og ville ta i mot hjelp - og jeg trodde han og bar på håpet så alt for lenge. Mange liker ikke lese det negative eller høre om det inntil det skjer dem selv eller noen nær. Så jeg vil heller slettes av de som misliker dette enn leve på de som har ingen moral. Jeg vil ikke være de døde fiskene; flyter beleilig med strømmen... Jeg tror Ernest Hemingway hadde rett.
Årets første og forhåpentligvis siste harde; Dere vet hvem dere er, dere vet hva dere gjør og folk må ta ansvar for sine handlinger eller mangel på handling... #rødknapp#hvitfjær#stoppvold#stoppvoldmotkvinner#feighet#gutteklubben#kvinnevold#partnervold#vold#voldihjemmet#coward#cowards#violence#stopviolence#stopviolenceagainstwomen#stopdomesticviolence#whitefeather#igiveyouawhitefeather#redbutton#ord#ordmedmening#brydeg#morals#moralsupport#takinglives#noneedforlikesandpopularity#mentalhealth#womensrights#wifebeaters @stoppvoldmotkvinner @regjeringen @taushettarliv #iamnotok
Finding out that girls calls themselves feminists whilst the let their best friend get beaten... But luckily some support you ☕❤ #iamnotok#mandag#mandagsdate#kaffetid#venninnedate#milkshake#smelt#sjokolade#hygge#kos#mys#nyt#njuta#hvordanmøteuken#godt#mathygge#vinterkos#winterjoy#delight#butfirstcoffee#winterinnorway#scandinavianwinter#howtosurvivewinter#ugg#oldschool#confrontingtheday @godtno @nrkmat @matprat.no @matbloggsentralen.no @visitoppland @visitgjovik
He is now gone - a chapter has ended - I will decide the end... #winter#winteriscoming#snow#keeponsnowing#winterhereicome#letitsnow#november#senhøst#snø#vinter#vintervær#hjerte#knusthjerte#brokenheart#heart#tap#fornyelse#kamp#kjærlighet#liveyourlife#eatpraylove#dontgiveup#winterwonderland#vinterinorge#ilovenorway#dnt#jfof#komdegut#møtvinteren#iamnotok