In the interest of full disclosure, I’ve watched an episode and a half of Netflix’s Dead to Me. AND in what I saw, it highlights different ways through which individuals and families respond to grief. As someone who sits with people in their grief by virtue of supporting them through death, I’ve seen a lot of different expressions—anger, detachment, flippancy, despondence, go getters, annoyance, sadness, and sometimes even laughter. It took me a while to understand which expressions of grief I was not comfortable with and WHY so that I could be an effective support system for those who grieve in ways I don’t understand. And overall its supported me in getting more comfortable with my own expressions of grief. Yet again, supporting through death helps us in life. Imagine that? #deadtome
Last Thursday at 3 pm, my sister’s ashes were interred at our family’s burial place. My parents & brother (& wonderful staff from Floral Haven!) were there together remembering Jen. My Dad took these pictures that remind us of the beauty of this place. My sister chose this final resting place years ago & we talked about the symbolism of this rock. Jen was just that -for many people! Faithful, loyal, & unwavering to those she loved. Even at the end of her earthly life, she was rock-solid in her suffering. She was more worried about others with a cold! The finality of her death is still a huge part of grief for my family and yet, we rejoice that she is perfectly fulfilled, perfectly whole, & perfectly loved by her Savior. Her soul sings,”The Lord is my rock, my fortress, and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield, and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold” . (Psalm 18:2) #sister#missingher#remembering#death#life#godisourrock#grief#sheisalive
This week I complete one year of therapy. A year full of stumbling, falling, accepting my flaws, discovering new ones, learning, unlearning and rebuilding my life back together. Exactly a year ago, I was lying on the floor, helpless after a full-blown breakdown, grieving from an irreversible loss. In that moment (which now feels like the perfect depiction of ‘hitting rock bottom’) I mustered up the courage to dial the number of a therapist a friend had recommended, and scheduled my first appointment. . Therapy is hard work. No single session can resolve your problems or put any fears to rest. You have to tirelessly train yourself to refrain from intrusive thoughts and obtrusive behaviours. It’s only natural to feel overwhelmed by all the things your mind is capable of doing. It’s also scary to think how easy it is to get entangled in your web of thoughts. Therapy has been the biggest truth-bomb of sorts, shattering all the myths I had about myself, one at a time. From living through all the destruction my anxieties have caused, to replacing unhealthy habits with constructive ones, it feels like a topsy-turvy journey of self-discovery. Figuring how your brain is wired, what coping mechanisms you use, how you can change your perspective instead of the situation as a whole - all of it comes as a gradual revelation. . If you are struggling with more that you can handle, talk to someone. And let that someone be a professional. While venting out to your close ones helps you feel better, talking to a therapist helps you get better. You only have to bring yourself to make that call and take that appointment. After all, the only way you can heal is by addressing what hurts. And if there’s anything I’ve learnt in the past year, it is that flowers can grow where the thorns once pricked . . . Reposted by @sultana.v - - -. - #mentalhealth#mentalhealthawareness#anxiety#anxietyrecovery#stress#depressionrelief#recovery#grief#panicattack#panicdisorder
Thank you for being patient with me while I heal. 🙏🏻 Growing up, and while my friends have had kiddos, I’ve heard so many times they jokingly(?) wish kiddos came with manuals. And while I know someday I’ll wish for the same from time to time with our own kids, in my current season of life I wish healing came with a manual. I wish I knew when I would feel fully healed, or if I never will. I wish sometimes I knew what was going to trigger an onset of tears, how to prepare myself for holidays, etc. I know God only gives the hardest journeys to the strongest of His people, and while I’ve never thought of myself as “strong” those I love the most believe I am & help me to see my strengths - and He must know I’m pretty strong, too. I experienced a hell I wish upon NO ONE, and I’m still learning to live through it and heal, day-by-day. Most of the time I do feel really OK. Much of the time I’m actually really happy and “normal” whatever that relative statement means. But through it all, I am still healing & that’s OK, too! & I want to share both sides with you who are trying to navigate your own journey. It’s not all pretty right away, sometimes it’s messy! And that’s when you need to surround yourself with the very best of your people. ❤️ To my family & friends who’ve helped in the biggest & smallest of ways: You all mean the absolute world to me and I truly am continuously grateful for helping me heal & for being patient with me as I continue my healing journey. ❤️ I love you forever! #ttccommunity#ttc#befaithful#keepthefaith#mentalhealthawareness#mentalhealthawarenessmonth#miscarriage#grief#lifeafterloss#breatheasy #surroundyourselfwithgoodpeople
A home away from home. This is my Bapou’s (Grandfather’s) village. I spent many happy memories here growing up. The village is where it still feels Greek. And it feels like home. Losing my Bapou in 2016 was one of the most heartbreaking ordeals I’ve ever faced, he was my best friend and I had the biggest soft spot for him. Grief is hard. I wrote a blog about my loss (I lost two grandparents in 2026- it was a sh*t year) and life has been hard without them. Some days I cry, wishing for them to be back with me and other days I remember the happy times and how they are in a better place. If you’re grieving right now, I’m not going to tell you it gets better because that’s not always the case, you have good days and bad days but you do learn how to deal with it over time. Here to talk if anyone ever needs or 🙏🏻❤️
Things I’m here for: • Slim fanny packs that double as belts. • White Jeans, even though I cannot sit on any of my furniture because dog hair. • Death. Talking about it, thinking about it. My death, your death, your grandparents’ death, my dog’s eventual death, the death of a nation, the bullshit death of Daenerys Targaryen. Specifically though, my brother’s death, #grief, and how that feels, or doesn’t feel. I’ve been writing about it, and while I don’t often share what I write (ladies, don’t do what you’re good at for free), I wanted to today. The link is in my profile if you’d like to read it.
What do you do to pull yourself out of your negative thought patterns? On the new Life After Loss site, I provide a list of resources that can help you to “turn on the light” when you’re feeling low. Visit the link in bio to learn more 💙 Have advice or a story to share about to your loss? Contact me to see how you can share your story and help us to spread the word on using loss to find the light 💡
I caught myself in a mental place today where to my own self - I was being extremely unkind. When I listened in to my thoughts I heard them saying that I got “too fat,” how did I let myself go. I’m not as “kind” as I used to be. I’ve been feeling too “angry” lately. I’m going to start being too cranky and people aren’t going to like me anymore - what do I have to be upset about anyway? Why aren’t I taking care of myself better ? I should be working out everyday, and I shouldn’t be working myself so hard all the time and THE LIST GOES ON. Luckily, I was doing yoga - so I was able to STOP. And pause. My mother passed away a year and seven months ago, and to cope ? Yeah, I gained 40 pounds binge eating too much popcorn and chocolate, and I JAM PACKED my schedule with EVERYTHING under the sun to avoid the truth that she’s not here. That my best friend isn’t here to make me laugh everyday and love me every day, and hold me in her arms. And for as much as I accomplished this year, for how hard I am trying to be “okay” I’m still picking apart my body, I’m still penciling in another commitment - I’m still struggling to accept me - exactly as I am. Just taking a moment to cry, and to breathe into the space I always want to avoid. Now that my first year of grad school is over it’s freeing - but that leaves me with .... SPACE, space to feel and heal and be. It’s uncomfortable, it’s painful, it’s liberating, it’s beautiful, it’s ugly; definitely messy- it’s all the things. Despite it being all the things - today I take a moment to try and change my mindset to being proud - of me- not for all that I’ve done or all that I’ve achieved but just for being - me. #yoga#truth#grief#griefwork#mommabear#love
عشق نوعی ارزش قائل شدن براي فردي ديگر است كه شامل علاقه به معشوق است. وقتی عشق تجربه میشود به همان نسبت جدایی هم تجربه میشود. . "ماهیت جدایی این است که در تمام پایانهای عاشقانه غمگینت میکند" #پلار_لوپز_کانترو #pilar_lopez_cantero #grief, France, 2010 Photograph: #josephine_king and #riflemaker
I won’t pretend, I’m not the best version of me at the moment. I’m snappy, moody, tired and unenthusiastic...unfortunately Bella gets most of the brunt of this😞 ....and then in rolls the mum guilt once she’s tucked up in bed.... Trying to remind myself that it’s going to be okay. I’ve known unimaginable heartbreak, yet everyday I get up and try my best. Maybe i need to cut myself some slack, maybe I’m not doing too bad after all..
Check out our t shirt campaign. Profits provide art therapy and transitional objects to immigrant children who have suffered in US detainment. •••••••• Repost @anxietysupport.info Mental illnesses are not a choice. Mental illnesses are not all in your head. Mental illnesses cannot be cured by a change in diet, lifestyle, or thinking. Mental illness is not synonymous with a bad attitude about life. Instead of making people with mental illness feel horrible about themselves, spread empathy and listen to what they have to say. Yes, changing your diet, lifestyle, or thinking can alleviate the symptoms of your mental illness, but it can’t cure it. Most people who say “change your thoughts” do not mean in it a way where it means “go to therapy and do cognitive behavioral therapy (or another type of therapy).” They usually mean “stop thinking negatively” or something that minimizes the severity and complexity of mental illness. A lot of these comments come from a place of ignorance, which is why it is important that we educate people so they understand that mental illness is complex and not a decision. [designed by @gmf.designs] - - -. - #mentalhealth#mentalhealthawareness#anxiety#anxietyrecovery#stress#depressionrelief#recovery#grief#panicattack#panicdisorder#motivator#motivational#stigma#perception#platform#lifecoaching#lifecoachingtips#lifecoaches#anxietyhelp#anxietycoach
Day 20 - Emerging Some days, all I want to do is retreat, to hide away and lose myself for hours in a fictional world. But it’s not something I can do any more. I wonder if I’d find it difficult to emerge again. I worry that I would, afraid that I would become so deeply lost or estranged from the world, that I wouldn’t know how to come back. Or even that I wouldn’t want to, if my disappearance was to a world of memories and wonderings about Maeve. For now, I shall lose myself for 90 minutes instead (a second viewing is required) and hopefully emerge a little less puzzled than the first time 💜 #mayweallheal#mwah2019#babyloss#childloss#grief#bereavedmother#themaeveeffect#got
Good Afternoon everyone! We have an upcoming HeavenSent Basket drop off scheduled for Full Circle Grief Center for June 19th! At this point it looks like we will need gift cards ($5 from starbucks), bibles, photo albums/frames, and new stuffed animals. Everything we need you can get at the dollar tree except the gift cards. We also have a paypal account if you would rather make a small monetary donation to cover a few items, remember no amount is too small. Thank you all in advance! https://www.paypal.com/donate/?token=GbI4xbJxhh0CEwOpWe7prL8pO2SA3ZtpD-QnS5Rm7olRxiXkpsHkF3fHURdNzCojV-l_HG&country.x=US&locale.x=&Z3JncnB0= #friendsforawareness#fullcirclegriefcenter#heavensentbaskets #pregnancyandinfantlossawareness #grief#miscarriage#stillbirth#sids www.friendsforawareness.com
A new post is up. Did you see Keanu Reeves' recent interview with Stephen Colbert? He captured well what it feels like to love and grieve. In today's post, a reflection on missing loved ones and finding them in our midst. (Link in bio.)
Our self worth can be tied to lots of things- attention, money, material things, status, looks. But if we lose one of these things, it feels like our world shatters. We begin to doubt ourselves and our abilities. We are worth so much more than the things we own, our jobs, or our appearance. 🙏🏼