Day 146...WARNING, CONTROVERSIAL STATEMENT TO FOLLOW...More is not necessarily better. As a leader, when protecting the bottom line becomes more important than protecting those that produce the bottom line, you have a culture crisis. When your people are under valued, under appreciated and under supported at the expense of the external customer, you have a culture crisis. When it becomes more about managing a metric and less about leading the people that control the metric, you have a culture crisis. So...If you are a leader in an organization that is in the middle of a culture crisis, it’s time to step up and change the angle. The external customer isn’t always right and sometimes the patient comes second...146 down 219 to go “Destructive abundance...when selfish pursuits are out of balance with selfless pursuits. When protecting the results is prioritized above protecting those that produce the results” #thinkdailythoughts#bethechange#onedayatatime#everydayweponder#dailyquote#quoteoftheday#growth#100%effort #toughlove#hardconversations#changeishard#culturecrisis#dontwaittilltomorrow#quotes#instaquotes#daily#dailyinspiration
Tonight as I dropped off our daughter at her dorm for her last week of high school (she’s a boarding student) I became emotional. I used to cry every Sunday night for at least two years of her boarding - and then some. . For those who don’t know, I was a young single mom for 14 years - it was just her and I against the world. I can close my eyes and hear the pitter-patter of her little feet around the house, feel her little her hand in mine, and see her smile and her eyes light up at the fun moments (ice cream cones, snuggling with her kitty, scootering around the neighborhood and playing at the park.) . Sweet girl, I just want to cry and hold on tight but I know that I need to let you share your gifts with the world. . You are kind and so loyal. You have a gift for sarcastic humor and everyone can’t help but laugh when you laugh. You have a huge heart and see the good in so many, including animals. . I’m proud of you for standing strong on your journey through life so far. You have made growing up look easy (I know it’s not.) You have stayed firm in who you are and what you believe in. And you have helped others on your journey. . You have had a dream since you were little and you have not faulted or wavered. It took an incredible amount of hard work to get to this point and I know more lies ahead but you are amazing and it will all fall into place. . You are a gift plucked from the sky and I got to care for you for a little while. I know we will have a bond forever. I don’t know what I did to deserve you but I am so proud to be your mom. I often feel that the life I get to live is surreal and magical - I hope you get to experience this feeling, too. . Don’t ever let the world make you hard - continue to stand strong and know you are made for great things and I will always be here for you. I love you to the moon and back.
As some of you know, I recently got back into running after YEARS of resistance and false starts. I posted recently how I had the thought while running, "it's never going to get easier if I quit while it's hard." This eureka moment showed me the importance of self-discipline--that I needed to do it even when I didn't want to. I did not like this lesson, but it felt important and true. So I put runs on my schedule and made them non-negotiable. Each time, I STALLED, but in the end I always went. Three days a week for three weeks, I ran. I felt so PROUD and capable and buoyant. And then...a few minutes into my 10th run in a few weeks, I tripped and fell and sprained my ankle. I sat on the ground sobbing as I realized I was hurt badly enough that my new running habit was over just as it was getting started. But during the painful (and painfully slow) hobble home, something cool happened. I observed my mind. I watched it tell me all KINDS of stories. I noticed the strong pull of familiar narratives. The "woe is me" story said things like, "oh COURSE this happened! I was doing SO well; something HAD to go wrong!" The "self-blame" story said things like, "what were you thinking trying to run? you never should have tried." The spiritual-bypassing story desperately searched for the MEANING--not an inherently bad thing to do, unless it's a way of trying to fast forward past the painful feelings. It said "I'm being reminded that things are not in my control" or "I'm being given an opportunity to see how strong I am." As thoughts arose, I just kept noticing. And when I got home, I let myself feel. I let myself feel angry and disappointed and sad and worried. I tended to the hurting part of me that needed care and empathy, without using it as an opportunity to drag out some tired old habit of feeling sorry for myself and trying to get others to do the same. I
#repost @lrknost who inspires me every. single. day. with her words ・・・ "So often we know we CAN do better and be better in our relationships, in our work, in our lives. We just don't have the time and energy to actually DO it. And that's when we have a choice: 1. Step back and do a little self-examination to figure out what's sapping our time and energy and make whatever changes are necessary so we can focus on what's important. 2. Or just keep making the same mistakes and beating ourselves up about it while hoping life will just somehow fix itself. Let's be real. Most of us have chosen number two far too many times. Often enough that we've figured out for ourselves that life never gets better unless we do. So today make one small change for the better. Say 'no' to one time-sapping invitation. Eat one less fast-food meal. Drink one less soda. Buy one less thing to clutter up your space. Watch one less hour of tv. Smoke one less cigarette. Choose love instead of anger one more time. Say 'yes' to one more bedtime book. Help one neighbor carry in their groceries. Whatever it is you want to change, make one small step in that direction. And then take another step tomorrow. Little changes become life changes, one small step at a time. And don't forget to look in the mirror once in awhile and say, 'I'm proud of you.' You deserve it, my friends."💞 L.R.Knost #changeishard#youcandoit —————————————————————
💡It’s not that you don’t have time...its just that it’s not your priority!! 😬Most tend to disagree and argue this fact….But I will say that the busiest people I know are the most successful and the the healthiest!! Why?! Because they make time for what is important!! It’s all about priorities and laying it all out there and getting real with yourself! If you want to change - you have to take something off your plate, ask for help and learn to say NO to the things that aren’t the immediate priority. You have to be willing to sacrifice a little comfort for the long term goals… And you can’t give up when it gets hard!! For my fitness and health, I knew that I needed to make a change. So I am choosing to prioritize my fitness, my grocery shopping and food prep and my business. I am making sacrifices now but know that in 12-18 months I will be able to realign. It’s not a lifetime of sacrifice but a conscious decision to put priority on making the dream the reality!! Now it is your turn!! Up for the challenge?! Whether it’s 4 days a week for 8 weeks of working out with me in my new group or starting a business that is going to lead you to freedom!! Hit up my and start making steps towards what you REALLY want!
I posted this last night, but deleted it. I wrote a caption but after reading it again I realized I barely touched the surface on what I was really feeling. I wouldn’t be practicing what I preached if I wasn’t completely honest and transparent. 🧘🏻♀️ I feel like I’m about to enter a new journey in my life and it brings me back to a scary feeling. When we first moved to KC. I didn’t know anyone and I had no idea what my life was going to end up like. It was a time of searching for me. An unknown. 🧘🏻♀️ We are facing a similar crossroads where we could be facing more change, more unknowns and new territories. To say I’m not scared wouldn’t be the truth. I am. But I do know how far we’ve come and what we have learned and how much we have grown. So, I have to trust it will all be ok and we will make it through. 🧘🏻♀️ Can’t grow without the tough times. This I have learned. 🧘🏻♀️ These times call for a ton of deep breaths and just putting one foot in front of the other.
Change can be hard—moving houses, loss of a pet, loss of a family member, starting a new school, parent going back to work—life is full of changes. And even littles can struggle with it! Play Therapy is the recommended modality for this age, and helps build self esteem, problem-solving skills, and the ability to communicate deep feelings and try out solutions.
John Maxwell “Change is inevitable. Growth is optional.” . Retuning home tonight with a very humble, incredibly full heart ♥️ of gratitude 🙏 to know these amazing friends who fill my cup daily (and so many more not in these photos). . Change will come as long as energy remains in motion; yet every morning we have a choice : ✔️Grow with the change and contend for the best version of our self in creation... . OR . ✔️Fall in the dust that’s left behind us. . It starts with a choice: Rise Above or Fall Below....each choice involves change. Choose your change! . . . . . . #changeishard#chooseyourhard#massivemomentumtour#portland#healthcoachlife#personaldevelopment#johnmaxwell#churchboytomillionaire
This lovely lady @kaytaayy is off to her next grand adventure!! So here’s a cheers to Toast and Gritz - the cornhole team whose loses in fashion, to glow stick dance parties, to floor dancing, to dressing up as gardens, to hammock time on the porch, to long talks (and a few tears), to sleep overs, and to cuddle sessions! Crazy how a few months of deep friendship feels like years. We will miss you bundles this summer but are so excited for your successes to come 💕 (p.s. sorry for taking some of your words 😬) love you!! #changeishard#changeistheonlyconstant
Happy #nationalwineday 🍷🎉 I made some pretty big (and tough) decisions today and I'm looking forward to new roads to travel. Also, I tweaked my hamstring a little. 😭 Hopefully, it's nothing that rest and rolling can't fix. 🤞 Also, I saw a friend I hadn't seen in quite some time and it felt so good to give her a hug! 🤗 How's your weekend shaping up so far? Any big and fun plans?
Today I am grateful for all the memories I have shared with Mike and Lynn Greis. From pre-school to proms, parties to fabulous meals shared, my heart is heavy as they begin their new adventure in Maryland. #missyoualready#changeishard
I’ve always been fond of the clouds. I like to watch them roll past, change shape, be in awe of the weather in general. My mind has been racing. My body has been adjusting. Taking a few moments. The calm before the storm. To get lost in the clouds again.
I haven't told my story in a while so Hey! I am Sarah. Mom of three and married to the love of my life 💪 When I workout and eat healthy I do it for the girl in this before picture. Let me tell you about her. 💪 I was depressed, upset that I had let myself emotionally eat my feelings and become 80 pounds overweight. I wasn't happy where we were living and didn't feel connected 💪 I wanted to change but didn't know where to start. I felt like I had gone down a dark tunnel and didn't know the way out. I tried a weight loss program, a juice cleanse so many things and still it didn't click 💪 I couldn't bring my kids to the gym and was far away from the city so getting in the car and driving 25 mins there and back was just not an option to workout especially with my husband being deployed 💪 Then three years ago I was introduced to 30 minute workouts I could do in my small living room. I needed a mat and a couple of light weights. Finally something I could do if my husband was away and was super cheap compared to a gym membership 💪 I was introduced to an eating plan that would change my life. I ate according to containers that wasnt about deprivation it was about making sure you had enough good food 💪 I was introduced to a team of women all cheering each other on! The community blew my mind. I finally felt connected. We were all working together on the same goals 💪 The program was three weeks and I did two rounds and then got to visit my husband. He couldn't believe the changes in me. My confidence, my self esteem, the happiness that was shining through 💪 These programs and the community has completely changed my life and my families lives. I wanted to pay it forward to other people so became a coach. One of the best decision. If you need a change and can relate to my story, send me a message. If you are interested in coaching send me a message or click the poll in my stories ❤️ Change is hard but not changing and feeling stuck is way harder.
Who says eating healthier has to be boring, tasteless, unfulfilling, or minimal? Not me!!! These tasty treats are no-bake blueberry pies and sooo good. . Learning to swap unhealthy foods or ingredients for alternatives helps you to make a sustainable change for your future and your family’s health. . I have a sweet tooth for sure, and these really hit the spot. I also have healthier alternatives for brownies, cookies, and cocktails created by professional chef @bobbycalabrese11 at my fingertips. . 🌟Change is never easy. When I first came to the realization that I needed change, the place I was at was much harder to handle. I had extreme fatigue, lack of motivation, over eating, bloating, poor digestion, chronic headaches, acne, and hopelessness. This, my friends was much harder than making the change to lead a healthier life. 🌟 . If you are ready for a change and want simple, delicious recipes, guidance and a guaranteed plan to help you make that change and work towards the goals that you would like to reach, please reach out to me. . My next Boot Camp is focused on nutrition, a comprehensive program to help you meet you goals. The deadline to register is Monday, May 27. More information about what this entails is in my stories today. . Whose in??? 👇🏼 . . . #healthiereating#cleaneating#eathealthyfeelhealthy#overcomeyourself#losethebloat#feelbetter#momstruggle#sugaraddiction#foodaddictionhelp#blueberrypie#changeishard#timeforachange
People like us do things like this. -Seth Godin As I was driving our son to church this morning at 5:00 to go on choir tour, he asked me to what podcasts he should listen while on the bus. My first response is always “Akimbo” (by Seth Godin), but he knows that. His response, “Mom, I have listened to all of them - I think I understand his message.” Well, yes, but I explained that as he grows and has more life experiences, the message may become even more clear and help him see things differently. We both read Seth’s blog every day - and we agreed that is worth our time. Then we discussed specific examples in our lives through family and work where “People like us do things like this” is many times at the root of issues that cause disagreements. I think of my mom as we were growing up - and today with our children - her grandchildren. She is very clear about what behavior is expected - simply because that is “how our family does it.” Mostly that applies to manners. We say please and thank you. Ladies and children get food first at our frequent large family dinners. Gentlemen open doors. “Yes, ma’am.” “Yes, sir” etc. etc. etc... Good grammar is also highly valued. Use the subjective for objective or vice versa or leave a preposition dangling and you will be corrected - even by someone as young as 5 years old. I think learning correct grammar starts before birth in our family. People like us do things like this. Take the concept to your workplace, church, volunteer group - or group of friends. “People like us do things like this.” It helps me tremendously to understand this. It’s OK to think differently - but if you want to remain part of the group - understand how the group does things - and do it that way. And that leads me to another favorite from Seth - understanding that real change happens “drip by drip.” What do people like you do? Is it getting you where you want to go? Happy Memorial Day! Incredibly
You know, growing up, my dad never said: Don’t cry. ...but his emotional response to things taught me to sometimes feel nothing. I feel nothing behind walls where I can’t be hurt. I will allow myself to feel when in a moment of alone, in the midst of the actual change. It is then I will acknowledge what is gone.
2019 is kicking my butt. May 2019 has been awful. I’m stressed out. Ready for school to be out but wondering what we will do..I often just want to grab my kids and get an RV and travel the country. I am worried about what’s to come, I know we will make it out okay, but here in the thick of it, I feel like I am drowning in anxiety. Money woes are the worst woes to have, the worstest woe to woe. I am just looking for a light at the end of a tunnel, I don’t like being so open and honest but I can do it on Instagram. All I want is to thrive and survive and have a pair of Gucci slides. Dream big. #woeisme#mommin#family#worry#canibuyatinyhouse#scared#makingchanges#change#changeishard
Change is hard - am I right? But I came across this question and made me think about change on a deeper level. Although things may be changing is it hard because we have also changed? . . Personally I love change and growth and moving forward, but not everybody does. The only down side in moving forward is getting older - I wish I could stay right here at 31 forever. The great part about moving forward and getting older is every year I appreciate what I have more and learn to live more freely and chase what I want to do and who I want to be. I’m making a lot of changes to my own branding currently because it is not serving me and what i want my business to look like and that is exciting! Is it time to change your branding too? Is it still representing you? Or maybe you don’t have a logo or brand identity and it’s time to set yourself up for success and make your mark on the world! Let’s make a logo that set you apart and represents what you do! . . . How do you feel about change?
Why work hard to create healthier habits? Because when you're feeling stuck, they just become second nature and you're less likely to revert to old behaviors that didn't help you get unstuck! This is why it's important to work towards progress not perfection. This past week I have been feeling stuck. I'm going through a lot of mental/emotional shifts right now that have taken a lot out of me. And normally they put me in a depressed mood. But because I have continued to work towards moving forward I have learned that this one thing (my workouts) help me manage these times. They help me not sit here for a long time. Even if I really don't feel like doing them, I have learned that even though they may not always help in the moment, they do in the long run. My progress may be slow but it's progress none the less. . . . #dealingwithshit#progressnotperfection#bebetterthanyesterday#depression#feelingstuck#selfgrowth#changeishard#changetakestime#learningtobepatient#adhdmom#feelingalittlestressed#imstrong#iwillgetbetter
Finally able to follow up my “one more week” post with some details. The last week is up, but not just for summer, forever. We have made the difficult decision after a year of continued disappointment and frustration to part ways with The Autism Academy. We are starting Asher at a new private school in the fall called L.I.F.E (I take no credit for the pun, it was all @kachurrrka 🤣) The Lauren Institute for Education is an incredible school that was brought to our attention with very high recommendations. They service kids though adults with a range of special needs and I truly believe they are more equip to handle Asher’s unique challenges. Not to mention they have a gorgeous campus with huge physical therapy gym, multiple basketball courts filled with adaptive bikes, two play grounds, a splash pad and a full size therapy pool! WHAT! We are really excited for this new beginning but leaving AAED was still really hard and I’ve cried multiple times today. There are staff members there that will hold a place in my heart forever and who will be truly and desperately missed. Until this year we have been so happy with the school and have so many fond memories. Change is always hard and doing the right thing is always hard. But we know just that; it’s the right thing to do for Asher, so here we go. Closing a chapter and starting a new one. . . #ashertheausome#autismawareness#autismmom#autism#autismspeaks#newbeginnings#change#changeisgood#changeishard#schoolsout
I have the SWEETEST students!!! Being gluten free is challenging (especially when it comes to treats). One of my graduated seniors brought in a dozen treats from my favorite gluten free bakery. Honestly, the thought alone meant the world to me, but the treats 😍😍 if you haven’t tried sweet cake bakery, you should! But, even more than the treats.... I’m going to miss this senior! He left a lasting impression with his example. He truly is a remarkable person with so much potential. I’m excited to see what life has in store for him. #blessedwiththebest#changeishard#sweetcake#glutenfree#seniors#warriors#weberhigh
Transitions, change and getting there gracefully. Change is rarely comfortable. Don’t resist the opportunity to be a better version of yourself just because it’s going to require a few tough moments (ok, perhaps many tough moments). And even when things don’t seem to be changing, something is trying to bloom. Change is constant. I navigate change with having routines and rituals that nourish me. In the past few years I have learned to let go of expectations and pay attention to my inner and outer world. This doesn’t change the uneasiness that comes with change, but it does help me have a clear perspective on my way forwards. Embrace change with an open heart and watch the miracles unfold. Rebecca #benaturallyfit
I dropped off my plants with my plant sitter this morning. I walked the town looking for a place to work for the day, but the Wi-Fi was taken up by graduates and their families in town for commencement, and alumna in town, being alumna. Graduation weekend is also homecoming. The town, by 11 am was already hopping. I wandered a bit. I don't know why. I just wanted to be home. To enjoy some days in the quiet of my home, before I hurtle to my summer gig. But I felt guilty giving myself that. Like I should somehow ride smoothly across the waves of change. All dancing and skipping. Excited not anxious. Enriched not guilty. That is not me. Equanimity, emotional equanimity, takes some heavy lifting round here. But I persisted. Finally, I packed up my work and came home. I want to sit here long enough to be ready to leave. Why am I going then? Because of very good reasons. Very necessary reasons. Very valuable reasons. For a needed change and excitement, just not too much excitement, please. I am not a person who rushes to change and throws my arms around it like a friend, that wicked friend called opportunity. I am skeptical. I will go, and I will even enjoy it, and I will also enjoy coming home, throwing open the windows, dumping my suitcases to the floor. Collapsing into my bed. Perhaps I am going so that I can have the pleasure of returning. #changeishard#changeisgood#changeisnecessary#homebody#ontheroadagain#makersgonnamake#noloitering#goaheadloiter