We can either empower ourselves with the stories we’re telling, or we disempower- and that’s the choice at all times.” @loriharder A year ago I saw Lori Harder on her book tour with my little sister in Christ @ericapurgett we both have loved everything about her book a tribe called bliss. Little did I know what would become of my relationships and myself after reading that. Today in my Instagram stories on work Wednesday I focused on how one platform for business has changed my life. I fell in love with NM 4 years ago. I have met so many people, opportunities, healing and growth i never imagined I could have after a very deeply traumatic experience In my life and marriage. Yes my husband is my best friend and I’m deeply grateful for that bond everyday! Especially after we lost our Son Nolin. But my husband can’t be my everything and it would be selfish of me to think he can. So a year and half ago I joined a brand that fit with me and my love for beauty care and loving on other woman mentally! These woman are part of my tribe all over the country! The last five months I’ve really dug deep into my health physically and have overcome chronic Epstein Barr and many other autoimmune stuff while healing my gut brain axis. I’m not fully there yet but about 85% were I need to be, and I did it all with holistic medical ways. I’m proud of that! I am also able to still do my love for holistic hair but part time at my suite. My son is no longer in daycare and my husband and I are on our way to being the family we truly desire, all because I took a chance and said yes. If you are in a spot we’re I was a year ago, let’s chat. There’s no reason we have to work full time and kill ourselves because society has a fascination with being “overly busy” as successful. If this resonates with you. Come check out my tribe. #makeupbloggerstyle#bereavedmother#gotindulged#hairstylistblogger#ecclesiastes#tribe#residualincome#focused#smallbusinessowner
Meet Jill Jones. Jill is a beautiful ray of light. When you meet her, you’ll feel her love and compassion radiate from her very soul. She is one of the most beautiful people I have ever met and helped me to become the yoga teacher I am today. Jill is interested in helping you uncover your true spiritual self, and cultivating an open and accepting attitude to your body and mind; helping you to create a strong body from the ground upwards. Her primary motivation as a teacher is in helping people find strength, ease and comfort in both their yoga practice and their daily lives. Jill will be treating us to a beautiful gong bath. You will snuggle down in the warmth of blankets and experience a unique relaxation as Jill plays. The vibrations move over and through you - you’ll feel them, and it will send you into a gorgeous relaxation. Jill’s gong has its own unique personality; it’s a heart chakra gong with a deep resonance frequency, It has warming tones which are very embracing, I guess you might call it the Auric equivalent of a warm gong hug. The sound of the gong will put your brain into the theta state, allowing the process of healing to occur, it creates a stillness in the mind and is beneficial for the nervous system. I’m so excited that Jill will be sharing her magic and beautiful spirit with you. When: 12th October 10-6 Where: Rownhams House, Southampton, Hampshire Investment: £100 If you haven’t emailed me to book your place yet, then here’s one reason why you should.
Life changes in a split second it seems. Two months ago I lost the most perfect little boy. I had such a healthy pregnancy. I invested SO much care, time, and attention in using the best prenatal vitamins, and going to the chiropractor regularly then 1-2x/week the last few weeks. I walked and walked and drank my weight in water everyday. I did ALL THE THINGS to ease labor - red raspberry leaf tea, yoga ball time, dates, evening primrose oil, you name it I pretty much tried it all. I researched and registered for all the best baby care hygiene items, cloth diapers and wipes, bottles, organic cotton, etc. etc. Part of my grieving in the beginning was definitely not being able to use all these intention-filled items on my deserving little baby. Packing them all up in a box was heartbreaking only to not know when I would bring them out again. Having visions of how I could be using them with Miles brought on the tears many times over. Now with some time the pain has eased and the sadness has subsided quite a bit but it’s still not easy. I still get teary-eyed almost everyday because the thoughts of these things still linger. I write about this journey in hopes that if someone comes across my feed and it helps then I have used my loss to honor Miles’ life and memory.
We are proud to announce that the RTZ HOPE "Parents" section of the website is now available en español: http://rtzhope.org/padres⠀ ⠀ How amazing that this information and resources are now available to so many more bereaved parents all around the world.⠀ ⠀ A huge THANK YOU to two members of our Luminary Program - Virginia Gimenez and Domenique Rice - for translating all of these pages!
Oh my goodness yes!!! I have been feeling this so deeply recently. Such love for my people that have been with me through SO much! So much gratitude for the amazing connection and support I have and continue to experience in my community of bereaved mothers. And now, an absolutely massive smile on my face and in my heart for the beautiful community I am now a part of on the gorgeous Mid North Coast. Each and every one of you fill my heart. I am better because of you. Thank you and sending so much love 💞🙏🏻🍃🌸 #community#midnorthcoastnsw#kaiphoenix#griefislove#portmac#portmacquarie#love#mytribe#healing#bereavedmother
I never wanted to be a mother. Yes. Really. My mom was a super mother. She was actually a super human. ____ Everyone loved her and she was good at everything. Especially being a mom. She folded and made everything cozy. She made anything and everything look and taste great. And she always knew how to pray and love me enough but not too much. ____ She was everything I'm not. So when pregnant with Chloe I felt scared and worried and well I believed she would not want me for her mom. _____ When I had Chloe it was traumatic. And scary and all of a sudden I stopped worried about being and not wanting to be a mom- I begged God to let me have her. She was born at 1.9 pounds and they didn't think she would make through the night. That was the longest night of my life. That night I understood my parents and all the love. I had no idea what was in store. But I knew Chloe wouldn't be here for long. Yet I learned patience, kindness, not to care about any of the small stuff and it's all small. I learned what it's like to fight for who you love and also when you love someone without condition or agenda - my needs or what I wanted, doesn't matter. It was and is always for Chloe. _____ When Chloe died I truly understood love. I understand to mother and to want the best for your child no matter what. _____ Being Chloe’s Mom is the greatest experience I have and will have ever have on this earth. I want you to recognize your love as a mother or as a daughter or son! Don't you ever discount that. And if your love comes from another place, my hope is that you have love. And know that losing my baby has taken a huge toll on me but it's also been the greatest moment of my life. And that for me is having the love of my daughter Chloe! And having a mother like mine! ♥️🙏🏻
On AGT tonight there was a cheerful 10-year-old girl who melodiously and passionately sang an opera song. Anybody else watch? 🎶 Her sweet voice and powerful range brought tears to my eyes... but another thing that caused a few extra tears to fall down my cheeks was seeing this remarkable child and her incredible talent/God-given gift... and wondering what my little Lily (close to the same age) would be doing and who she would be. It’s like this thought and feeling dawned on me in a whole new way somehow. I wondered how this girl’s mother must have felt watching her little girl spread her wings and shine. And I wondered in what ways I’d be watching Lily shine. Even if only on an elementary school stage at a talent show. My heart would beam with pride and love for my girl, no matter what she was good at (or perhaps not so good at) or what she enjoyed. I simply wish I knew what she might have chosen to do with her one wild and precious life. 💗🌸 #lilykatherineallenball#agt#americasgottalent#onewildandpreciouslife
Today marks one week since we said our goodbyes. There’s not a day that goes by that we don’t think of you, we still speak of you everyday. We love and miss you so much our son 👼🏽👪👶🏽 #neverforget#alwayslove#bereavedmother
Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive him to be, and whatever your labours and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy. ♡ Desiderata. #bereavedmother#stillbornstillloved#stilllovinmama#healingjourney#scoutssail#scoutshonour
There won’t ever be new photos of you. . These ones I have are all there will ever be. . Don’t think for once that means I’ll ever stop sharing you, my firstborn. . Your legacy down here isn’t over just because your life is. . You give me strength I didn’t know I had. . I use it to stand tall & proud as an angel mom in hopes that I’m supporting other moms like me. . There are less moments in the day you don’t cross my mind than those you do. . And not one of them do I not miss you. . Until eternity, my boy, I love you. 👼🏽🌈#acornerforavery
Grief... . I have a love / hate relationship with it. In one hand, the grey fog that wraps itself around your brain is comforting. It's a reminder that you haven't forgotten about your loved one; they are still in the forefront of your heart and your thoughts. And on the another hand, it's a trickster - ripping through your mind to cause havoc. . This photo I took last weekend, pretty much sums up my grief. The dense cloud covering the blue sky. Not knowing how long it'll last until you see the sky again. But you do see it - every now and again. It appears...and tells you that it's still there. And that it's waiting, patiently. Waiting for us to blow the dark clouds of grief away momentarily. . The blue sky gives us hope for better days to come. A reminder of how sufficing life can be, and that you are strong. You battle on through the blackness to see the light again. And we do this time and time again. . Because we love the ones we lost. We never completely let go. The fog always returns. . We just learn to embrace our 'new' life. . . 🖤🖤🖤 .
Sweet girl you are heavy on my mind and heart today. I ache for the sounds you would make to fill our home. I yearn to feel your warmth and kiss your cheeks. I often think about how different life would be with you in it. The ache for you threatens to crush me today, but your love and Gods hope keep me standing strong. I miss the us we were in the picture. You and I. Complete and whole. Innocent and oblivious. The hope of seeing you again one day is the biggest thing that gets me through days like today. I always miss you, but today I miss you so much it’s harder to breathe. #bereavedmother#infantloss#babyloss#griefandloss#lenorajane#missingnora#lifeafterloss
I took a meal to a church family a while back and on the way to their home my daughter asked what had happened – why they needed us to bring them a meal. . I almost told her that it was because they had lost a baby. But I wasn't sure that was the best way to describe it to a child. After all, they hadn't misplaced their baby. Their baby hadn't gone missing. Their baby wasn't going to magically turn up like change that had fallen between the couch cushions. They wouldn't be surprised by their baby's sudden appearance in some deep crevice of their house. . Their baby wasn't lost. Their baby was gone from this earth for good. . So I told her their baby died. Because that's really what happened. . And as the words exited my mouth, her face turned from smiling to somber. Because she knows what it means for a baby to die. . “Their baby died like Micah?” she asked. And I confirmed that this was in fact what had happened. . “I don't know why babies die,” she said. . And my response? . “Neither do I.” . Because it will never make sense. . Miscarriage. Stillbirth. Pregnancy loss in any capacity. Sure, these things can all be classified as a loss. But more than that, they are each a form of death. . They will break your body and your heart. And as is common with death, they will sink you into the deepest trenches of grief. . Pregnancy loss isn't the loss of the idea of a baby. It's the loss of an actual life. It's death. It's a loss that deserves to be mourned. And those who experience it need to be cared for. With meals and hugs and sympathy cards. With compassion and more compassion. With helping hands and open hearts and words of validation. . My young daughter understands this. And I hope you will too. @abeautifullyburdenedlife #babyinheaven#bereavedmother#grief#griefandloss#miscarriage#stillbirth#pregnancyloss#lifeafterloss#motherhood#pregnancyandinfantloss#abeautifullyburdenedlife
I can’t help but think of the incredible women I met at the retreat. Women I consider friends who I share an inseparable bond with. I feel so lucky. ❤️ I often sat back as an observer and watched relationships blossom over stories of their children, their shared love of homemade bread, or simply just being in a beautiful space together for 48 hours. I see many of them commenting and showing support on one another’s social media posts, and that warms my heart more than anything. Hazel’s gift is bringing people together and because of her, mothers who are going through the unimaginable have others to lean on who ‘get it’. They all deserve to know that they are not alone. ❤️🐞🌺 #griefsupport#sistersinloss#sharedbonds#childlosssupport#griefretreat#hazelsheroes#bereavedmother#friendsinloss#lossmamas#friendship#healhonourhelp
"The retreat gave our family the experience of finally being surrounded by people who could truly understand what life after child loss was like. While online forums are wonderful, nothing beats spending several days together, getting to know one another better and develop even closer friendships." –Julia Burgess, SUDC Parent and SUDC Foundation Board of Directors Member. Learn more about the benefits of the SUDC Foundation Family Retreat in this week's edition of "SUDC Insights." Click the link in our bio to read the full post! To learn more about this year’s retreat click “2019 Family Retreat” in our bio.
I’ve been quiet !! Really quiet ! I’m sorry, I am still here 😅 Just been taking a little bit of time to connect with this little angel of mine. And I’m tired. God I’m exhausted honestly. I think maybe it’s good just to take a step back for a few days and just be, and just connect with your grief. I’ve found it harder to connect with my grief the last few weeks but last night I had a big cry, it was needed. My counsellor said I’m probably too busy. So I’m just taking a bit of time out 😀 I also want to get a tattoo for Emmy so really trying to think about what I want carefully as I want it to be just right. Plus trying to get back into the corporate life working in the city ( 4 days a week soon, eek!) The other orders of orders that I’m waiting for other bits for to be able to send ( does that even make sense ? 😂😴😴😴) doesn’t arrive til Monday so that’s the next time I’ll be doing some collection ❤️Casually moving house next Saturday too! Lots going on so it’s good to just breathe. I’m still here though and here for you as you are for me. Love seeing all your messages and comments always and love this community. Lots of love, Tired Sam, chewing shoes Evie and my most perfect Emmy bear xx and thanks to @littlehearttinywings for the 📸
God has a plan for our lives. He has a purpose for the pain we go through. We make plans for our lives, but they may not always line up with God’s. Our plans are, by nature, focused on ourselves. God’s plans for us will focus on how our story can help others. It is our choice to join him or not. The beautiful thing in all of this is that God knows our pain and walks us through it, but he also knows that using that by joining him to help others, it inevitably helps us. One of the greatest ways to continue our healing and growth is to look up from the circumstances we are in and see God. When we do that we see how he is using our story to help others. It’s a way for us to walk forward. It gives us purpose for our pain. #pain#faith#loss#hope#purposeforthepain#bereavement#bereavedmother#childloss#infantloss#miscarriage
As babies who are born with pediatric congenital heart disease grow up to become adolescents and adults, they have what is known as adult congenital heart disease (ACHD). Adults with congenital heart defects may have unique issues that require visits with specially trained cardiologists, such as a history of heart surgery or other medical problems that occur in adulthood. ——————————————————————— ❤️ Adult congenital heart disease requires a specialized team of doctors. For the best treatment outcomes, these doctors should have training and experience in congenital heart defects and their impact on adults, such as managing heart disease during pregnancy. The Pediatric Congenital Heart Association estimates that the vast majority of adults living with congenital heart disease are not receiving proper cardiology care. (source: www.childrenscolorado.org) - - - - - #chdfact#chd#chdwarrior#chdaware#chdangel#1in100#congenitalheartdefect#congenitalheartdisease#chdawareness#infantloss#babyloss#mamagrief#angelbaby#lifeafterloss#grief#grievingprocess#bereavedmother#angelmom#grievingmom
♥️ The outlook for children who have congenital heart defects is much better today than it was in the past. Advances in diagnosis and treatment allow most of these children to survive to adulthood, which means that more and more adults are living with congenital heart disease. Even if your congenital heart defect was repaired in childhood, you need regular medical follow-up to maintain good health. ❤️ Even with improved treatment, many people with CHD are not completely cured, even if their heart defect has been restored. With CHD, other health problems may develop over time. It all depends on the specific heart defect of the patient, the magnitude of the violation and the severity of the pathology. Against the background of CHD, even after treatment, various health problems can occur: - ❤️❤️irregular heart rhythm (arrhythmias); ❤️increased risk of infection of the heart muscle (infective endocarditis); ❤️weakening of the heart due to the development of cardiomyopathy. (source: https://arrhythmia.center) ___________________________________ This is why proper funding is needed. - - - - #chdfact#chd#chdwarrior#chdaware#chdangel#1in100#congenitalheartdefect#congenitalheartdisease#chdawareness#infantloss#babyloss#mamagrief#angelbaby#lifeafterloss#grief#grievingprocess#bereavedmother#angelmom#grievingmom
Moving closer to my due date of August 3rd. My feelings are getting heavier. The hard part about twins is, they tell you to expect them 4-6 weeks early. So, while August 3rd was my due date. I know in reality they could and likely would be here by now. Everything that I am doing now, I tell myself I shouldn’t be doing... They should be here and I shouldn’t be doing any of these things. I had two margaritas last night. I shouldn’t have been able to do that. I had ideas in my head of what this summer would be like. None of those thoughts will ever come true. Not now. Not ever. I can’t wait for this summer to be over. I honestly, could give two shits if it continues to rain everyday and never gets warm. I plan on doing nothing. I don’t care about holidays to come. There is nothing for me to celebrate. Fuck 2019, this was supposed to be their year. #graysongregory#jacksonfinn#21w4d#march272019#ttts