(4/4) My ex-friend’s behavior was so out of character and, genuinely, the most unexpected shit of my life. This person was always so rational, expressive and understanding. Our friendship would never have lasted 8 years if they weren’t. But sometimes life jolts you into situations you never in a million years expected and you have two choices: You either fight it or you cope. I chose to cope. So here’s what I learned: Even the people you love most can become toxic. That doesn’t mean they’re toxic people, they’re just not in a healthy place right now. And when someone blames you for their own toxicity, when they lash out to make you hurt the way they do...attempting to reason with them will only cause damage to your emotional health. Take it from someone who tried - you will never find the right words to get through to someone who refuses to release their grip on a false narrative. Even when it makes no rational sense, there is nothing you can do. Because this story is exactly what happens when you don’t face your pain: eventually, you snap. If you choose to run from it now, if you decide to suppress it today, it will catch up to you in the future. And it will swallow you whole. When unattended, your pain will rule you blindly, causing you to ruin friendships with people who only ever loved you. Your pain will tell you excuses like “THEY made me feel this way. THEY are wrong. THEY are terrible friends,” so you can avoid facing your darkness. And it will wreak havoc until you’ve eliminated any threats to your coping mechanism of I Am Not Responsible For My Own Pain, Others Are. The reality is, you either face your pain or you don’t. You can run from it now, knowing it will eventually catch up to you, or you can slow down and sit with it. Ask what it’s trying to teach you. Learn something new. Feel through it. Make friends with it. Understand it. And through processing your pain, you’ll understand
"As his own way of seeking for acceptance and love from the society, he started using substance to feel among and accepted... And that was how the addictive life started... after every unwanted but irresistible use follow feelings of guilt, shame and anger towards self...Sadness and loss of interest in major areas of life became dominant..." . . . This is the path social anxiety has led some of us to... Does this say much about you or someone you know? . . Talk to @mindshaven . . #socialanxiety#anxietyattack#anxious#anxietyrecovery#anxietysupport#anxietysucks#anxietyrelief#anxietyawareness#anxietyhelp#anxietyproblems#anxietywarrior#mentalillnessawareness#mentalhealthmatters#endthestigma#stopthestigma #weekend #copingskills#mentalillness#mentalhealthawareness#recovery#selflove#selfcare#bekindtoyourself #selflovefirst#selftalk#mindshaven#abuja#feedback
Just a few short months ago, I dreaded holidays. Not only are they busy, but there is often a lot of socializing. And that part was agonizing. Not because I don't love my family and friends, but because my anxiety convinced me I was uncomfortable and awkward. Granted, I still fight these feelings. But I have worked really hard to overcome the monster of anxiety that sucked a lot of joy out of holiday celebrations and experiences. So I thought I would share a bit about what has helped me. I make a point to workout before the event. I prefer to go for a run, but a nice walk or yoga is also great. I like to bring a dish to share. This way I can relax knowing there will always be an option I'm comfortable eating. I try to cut back on caffeine and alcohol. I used these in the past to cope with my anxious feelings, but I have learned they only make it worse. I meditate. The Calm app is my favorite and there are short 2 minute guided meditations. Great for the car ride to and from the event or even a quick trip to the bathroom. I talk about how I feel. My family and friends are now well aware of what I struggle with. Being open and honest is one of the best ways I have found to manage my anxiety. These might not work for you, but I encourage you to experiment with a few of the suggestions if you feel anxious or stressed out about social get togethers. What have you tried that helps? I'm always looking for new ideas and suggestions. 😊 . . . #anxietyhelp#thisis40#runhappy#motherrunners#anxietyrelief#boymomsrock#motherrunner#postpartumanxiety#socialanxiety#easterparty#minnesotagirl#calmapp#dailycalm
So I’ve shared a little bit about it, but the truth is that I have spent about two years struggling with my mental health. This time last year I was incredibly low. Like low to the point that I was afraid to be alone because I worried I was going to hurt myself. Every day was not that bad, but the worry that it would get that bad again fuelled my anxiety. ... ... I was diagnosed with GAD and later with depression. I went through counselling, but it wasn’t enough. Eventually, I found success with medication and life changes, but I am humbled by this arduous journey. There were times when I didn’t think there was an end. When my first medication made me gain about 25lbs and have other negative side effects, I felt scared that I couldn’t balance my physical and mental health. But I’m here. I’m doing my best and realizing that all of this is connected. ... ... With the stress of semester end and other obligations last weekend, I found myself getting back into my habit of bingeing. Luckily @ww offers enough flexibility and positivity that I was able to get control again. I know that there is a strong connection between what we put in our bodies and the way our minds work. I saw it firsthand as crappy feelings led to crappy eating. The difference this time around was that I had tools to pull myself back out; I am slowly learning that these ups and downs can happen and what matters is how I travel that path. ... ... Long story short: get help when you need it and don’t feel like you need to look strong to be strong.
This is a note from my mental breakdown. I wanted to be real, trigger warning for suicidal thoughts and strong imagery. ______________________________________________ What a terrible thing it is To feel as though being dead is better than being alive. What a terrible thing it is To see the pain in your father’s eyes as you confess your pain Whispering that you don’t want to be here anymore What a terrible thing it is To want to keep fighting more than anything else But have no energy to fight it anymore What a beautiful thing it is I am alive for my dad. I’m alive for good music. I’m alive for my dog. I’m alive for the sunshine. I’m alive for ice cream and cookies. What a dichotomy This is.
Find your own riot of color when it rains. ... There are so many reasons why I've been off Instagram for the past few months. My grandmother passed away, and two family members were diagnosed with cancer. My full-time job had to deal with some cutbacks, so I've had to take on part time work to try and pick up the slack while I look for something stable-- which I have been reluctant to share with anyone. There has been family drama-- ugly drama. And all of that has put a strain on an otherwise happy relationship during what should be an exciting time. Combine that with anxiety, depression, and SAD (just for the fuck of it!)-- and there have been days when just getting out of bed, dressed, and to work on time was an accomplishment. You don't want to look at other people's well-curated lives on social media when your own feels like shit. And NO ONE reeeeaaally wants to listen to your troubles when you're going through a rough patch (that's why therapists are so expensive). And for me anyway, any time I'd try to write or post or even go out, my brain would kindly ask, "who THE FUCK wants to hear what you have to say!?" But you know what? Tough! Unfortunate things will always happen at some point, and the only way to get through them is to GO through them. You don't have to deny that it sucks, but you don't have to dwell in it either. I am able-bodied. I have a roof over my head and food in my belly. My bills are getting paid. I have a partner who loves me enough to stick around through the bullshit, and sometimes even talk some sense into me. I have the desire to create. I have a cat. That's more than a lot of people can say. In the words of @elizabeth_gilbert_writer , "fear absolutely DOES NOT get to drive." I have the means and the motivation to make my life better, and I will. Because damnit, I am a badass-- and you are, too. (thanks for the reminder, @jensincero !) ... So hand me my iridescent umbrella and my red lipstick. Bring it on, World!
Hello office. ✔️ comfy chair ✔️ gelato ✔️ netflix • All things that make my office (aka wherever I decide to work out of) a happy place 😍 • ✔️ wifi ✔️ my phone All the things I need in my “office” to work. • I’m creating a life I never thought possible. I always thought the steps were... Find job ➡️ hope you like the location and schedule ➡️ deal with it. Turns out it can ACTUALLY be... Build business ➡️ live and travel and move where I want 😲 • Sound like a dream? Drop me your fave travel emoji below 👇🏻👇🏻 Or better yet - where would you live if (WHEN) you could live anywhere you want?!
*reposted* Easter Basket: Everything came well packaged and nothing leaked, the slime is very nice and has a good texture and is very crunchy. The scent is kind of strong, but I just don’t like strong scents. Thank you! - From: @slimeby.izzy #slimebyizzyproof - Fc: 49
*reposted* Captain Crunch: So I’ll start with the bad thing, during shipping the slime leaked and I lost some slime. The slime itself is very good, the scent is also good too. Thank you :) - From: @slimeytints #slimeytints - fc: 49
I’m trying to use a wider variety of thumbnails :> - I made this awhile ago but recently I added cereal milk from @parakeetslimes to it and it was so worth it (the outcome is the slime in the vid) and fyi my cereal milk was dead so I had to save it some way. - fc: 44