#throwback GOOD MORNING ☀️‼️ I want to remind you that you have not even scratched the surface of who you are. You are just getting started and the world needs your gifts. Heal. Prepare. Execute. Be great. I believe in you and I’m here if you need me. STAY HUMBLE.
Just gonna leave this here. My IG stories is where I unravel my thoughts. 💭 I actually woke up this morning and had to remind (myself) of this very lesson once again. It doesn’t always stick the first time. KEEP GOING. Everyday is a test and/or a battle. Facing your fears, insecurities and unhealthy expectations head on is your way to victory. You have 24 hrs to shift a change in your life. Tired of where you are? Tired of feeling defeated and behind? How do you wanna handle that? Because nobody is coming to handle it for you. I’m always here if you need it. Stay humble. 💎❤️⚡️
Unless you have prepared yourself to profit by your chance, the opportunity will only make you ridiculous. A great occasion is valuable to you just in proportion as you have educated yourself to make use of it. 👈🏾Read that twice. . . . Maaaaan I AM NOT PATIENT. I have trouble waiting when I can feel what I want or have been working for, within my grasp. This year I got so close to what I deemed “success” that I could smell it. Little did I realize, that I was ill prepared for it and being stubborn about the way it would be delivered to me. I’ve always felt talented and educated, but my perception of hard work, preparation & patience was skewed. I had high expectations and low standards, a recipe for disaster. These days I spot check myself first thing in the morning. I remind myself that I will have to do things I absolutely don’t want to do in order to get to where I absolutely want to be. I remind myself that the resources I complain about not having are NOT the answer to all of my problems. I tell myself that when I am ready, the universe will drop off everything I have asked for in my lap. At that point, I’ll have to 10x everything I did before to maintain those blessings. I’m erasing my entitlement. I’m erasing my unrealistic expectations. I’m earning what I’ve asked for, and staying even more ready for the things I don’t want. They come with the territory. Stay woke. Stay humble. I believe in you.
We can sit and find every reason in the world as to why we aren’t where we should be. Excuses are a slippery slope. As soon as you get comfortable making or using them, it gets more and more out of control. Focus on what you control, focus on what you can change. You can change you. You can hold yourself to a standard. Everything else outside of you that “holds you back” is a scapegoat. Start counting on you and doubling down on your own abilities. Sometimes there will be a helping hand, and sometimes you’ll have to shoulder the load. But I promise you, the more you count on you and the less you count on others, the further you’ll get. Stay humble.
Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears. . . . Don’t start your day off like it did something to you. Your day is waiting to give you all the blessings that you have been mentally blocking because you’re LOOKING for the negative. Each day will not be perfect. To the contrary most days will not go as planned. You gotta start seeing the big picture. Is this ONE day, or thought....really going to stop you from where you wanna be in 6 months? Or a year? Success is a process. Don’t let anyone tell you different. And as my OG’s would say, “don’t cut off your nose to spite your face”. Have an amazing day.
Believe that. Say it to yourself and envision it. Set your goals. Write down what (daily) actions will get you there, and then leave it all out on the table. Answer me this, what would happen if you found something worth dying for and then lived for it? Let’s find out together. Stay humble. 💎❤️
Yes, your transformation will be hard. Yes, you will feel frightened, messed up and knocked down. Yes, you’ll want to stop. Yes, it’s the best work you’ll ever do. . . . I talk a lot about some of my down moments and he reflections on them, but I’m proud of who I’m becoming. I don’t feel as though I’ve failed, I feel like I found 10,000 ways it won’t work 👈🏾Thomas Edison💡. We have a tendency to beat ourselves up for the missteps we have taken in life, but look at what you know now? The only way to maintain success is to be able to hold the weight of it when it comes. If you’re never tested beyond your limits, what do you think will happen when the real pressure hits? Be grateful for the lessons you receive in life. You see lessons undoubtedly come at the (temporary)cost of your pride, your happiness and sometimes sanity.....but it’s necessary. Your layers have to be peeled back in such a way that the best of you shines. You can’t want the butterfly but despise the caterpillar. Stay humble.
Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. . . . Unfortunately, I stood in my own way this year. I went so deep into peeling back the layers of myself without preparation for the darkness I would face that coming out of that hole was daunting. I’ve always known I was out on this planet for a special purpose. I’ve always been around people who could see it in me. However when no one is around, I struggle to see it in myself. I struggle to be able to see past the failures of my past, the people i disappointed and those who disappointed me. I realized a few months ago that I never mastered forgiveness. And because I couldn’t forgive me, I couldn’t forgive anyone else. So each day I take a deep look in the mirror, and I say sorry to myself. Sorry for holding you back. Sorry for being arrogant. Sorry for having unrealistic expectations without a matching work ethic. After that it’s time for actions that prove my forgiveness. It’s a daily process and I’m nowhere near finished. But in that process I have been able to apply that forgiveness to others in my life whom I’ve felt wronged or abandoned by. The biggest difference is those come separate of apologies. Apologies I may NEVER receive. Those are the hardest, but even more necessary. I won’t lie to you and say it’s easy, but I will tell you that it’s imperative. For your peace, for your happiness, for your sanity. Forgive. Love, and heal. Stay humble. ❤️💎🔨 . . . Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness. ... Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, nor does it mean condoning or excusing offenses.
No man or woman is an island. To exist just for yourself is meaningless. You can achieve the most satisfaction when you feel related to some greater purpose in life, something greater than yourself. . . . Flashing back to January....it was one week after I found out I had no where to live when I got a text. A good friend of mine told me his wife was working at a school where they were experiencing issues with bullying and finding suicide letters. At the moment I got the text I was trying to figure out where I was going to sleep for the next few weeks. Something in my gut just told me to say yes. I agreed to show up for them, but I had no idea it would end up benefiting me the way it did. After I finished speaking to the students about self love and the importance of understanding what others go through, I did something I didn’t normally do. I told them if they needed a hug that they could come up and get one. By the time I finished hugging all of them, I felt filled with love and purpose all over again. That was the day I realized that doing for others is the seed you MUST plant to receive and earn what you are seeking from the world. We often sit around and wait to be saved. We wait for a solution. I have a secret for you. YOU are the solution to your problems. You’ll realize it as you help others solve theirs. I promise. Stay humble.
You don't love someone because they're perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they're not. . . . Love has taught me a multitude of things in a short period of time. I’ve been reflecting on them a lot lately. I realized that throughout my life...when I chose to love someone, that love came with an immediate pedestal. Pedestals can be beneficial in a short term, however with the way life flows...it can be detrimental over time. You won’t always agree with everyone’s choices or actions. We are all different as we should be. However, if that person is on a pedestal, you can be creating an expectation of perfection. In the moments where that person does things you don’t agree with, you will either take it personal or you’ll begin to question their loyalty. Humans are not meant to be worshipped. They are meant to be appreciated for who they are unconditionally. If you create room for the person you love to be HUMAN instead of this non fallible...almost fictitious character, you leave room for understanding and growth. You also leave room for that person to EARN your love and appreciation. 9 times outta 10 you’re giving “pedestal love” because you desire the same in return. Ask yourself why and address it now. The last thing you want is to be hurt by someone’s actions and they don’t even realize the weight those actions or words hold. Realistic and reciprocated love is safeguard for your heart. Love can be intoxicating and will literally cause you to throw logic out of the window. You will meet people you wanna give it all, and that’s fine. I’m never going to discourage you from falling head over heels in love. I’m just telling you to be realistic....put a helmet on your heart. Stay humble.
Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be. . . . Listen...last night....friends, family and strangers filled a room to share a part in the vision of “Where is the love?” The healing that took place last night was on a different level. I’m grateful to everyone who came through. The kind words, affirmations, hugs and overall appreciation gave me strength and motivation beyond words. You all inspired me. You inspired me to let go. I’m letting go of unhealthy and unrealistic expectations. I’m letting go of connections that no longer serve me or my growth. Most of my life has been spent in resentment of the present because it didn’t match how I envisioned it, or because I didn’t have the approval and encouragement of the people close to me. As of late, I realized I was seeking the wrong approval, and from the wrong people. I promised myself, that I am no longer that person. If you accept me, you accept me. If you love me, you love me. If I win I win. And if I lose, I learn. I’m not forcing anyone’s hand anymore, especially my own. Ima let it flow. My biggest desire for myself is peace. My biggest desire for YOU is peace. If I’m going to lead the way then that has to be at the top of my list. I know I will still face pain, disappointment and other negative emotions...but the actions I take as a result of those emotions is shifting. One day at a time. One step at a time. It’s a marathon, not a race. I feel like I’m right where I’m supposed to be. Stay humble.
Why the world do you like that? Like they don’t know you god sent, but me I view you like that. 🔥🔥 #bigmood . . . There’s NOTHING like falling in love. When the persons name alone is enough to send your heart in a frenzy. Their name will pop up on your phone and you’ll forgot your whole thought process. You’ll wrap your arms around that person and all the tension leaves your body. You know what I’m talking about 😏. It’s amazing to fall and be in love. Staying in love and cultivating that love is a whole different journey. . . . We’re going to dive into some of this today at “Genius Talk: Where is the love?”. Thank you to everyone who has RSVPd for today. I can’t wait to see you guys and bring you up to date on what’s happening with the project. Link in my bio if you haven’t RSVPd yet. See you at 5. 🙏🏾 Stay humble.
Even after all this time, the Sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that, It lights the whole sky. . . . GO OUTSIDE TODAY AND REJUVENATE YOR SOUL. Sunlight is proven to help as a treatment for depression and anxiety. Even if you have not been diagnosed with depression or anxiety, the symptoms befall most humans. Sadness, apathy, sleeplessness. I posted some other symptoms and treatments in my insta story just now. Take care of yourself and learn to rejuvenate from your negative moods and thoughts. You can’t run from pain, but you can heal it. Im here if you need help. My DMs are always open. I believe in you. I love you. Stay humble & HEAL.
Love cannot be created where the ego exists. . . . I have a mission to sit down and talk with @jadapinkettsmith and @willsmith for my doc series “Where is the love?”. Idk when and Idk how but it’s going to happen. They way they have learned to love themselves, each other and their family is inspiring to me. And now they articulate it for others to understand. It’s empowering. Our society has strayed so far from unconditional love that we seldom can even recognize it. Love is not a novelty. Love is not a chore. Love is an amazing privilege that can be revoked at any time of the ego supersedes all else. Love is kind, love is gentle, love is understanding. Love is NOT controlling, limiting, demeaning or malicious. I have found that having the right people loving and supporting you, and giving the same in reciprocity is necessary. You must also have patience with yourself and the ones you love. For you will go through trials and tribulations that will change/grow you. Those transition periods are not always so pretty. To anyone I hurt during a growth period, I apologize. To all those growing through a tough time, I send you peace and strength. To those of you in love and understand the blessing it is, as well as the work you’re responsible for, bless you. Cultivate love everyday. First in yourself, then let it overflow to others. Lose your ego, for it will stand in the way of everyone TRYING to love you, and will impede your ability to love them back and see that they want what’s best for you. Keep going. Keep growing. I believe in you. I love you. Stay humble.
Where is the love? ❤️🚨 Saturday 5PM - 9PM Healing & creative vibes. Come join me @_c.jae_ @sophia.dilorenzo @thierraw @msamethysttt and more as we have a discussion on positive self identity and the upkeep of mental health. (RSVP/donate in my bio). Community is key so that’s what we’re building. Can’t wait to see you there. ❤️💎
Let go of the things that don't matter anymore, you don't need the extra weight holding you down. . . . A year to the date exactly, I was 220 pounds. I was carrying so much extra weight mentally and physically that I could t even look myself in the mirror. I didn’t like who I was or what I looked like. I also felt like I couldn’t be the guy telling people to get their life together, without having my life together. Your mind and body are on the same track, so both need to be able to handle the rigors of life. You also have to be able to look in the mirror and not only accept yourself, but love what you see. So when I got back from California I vowed that I would take better care of my body. Today, I weigh 180 pounds. I feel better and I feel more capable of carrying out my dreams. The discipline it takes to get up at 5am to get it in at the gym has carried over into everything else. I still have more work to do & I still have more discipline to gain. Sometimes I fall off and tread backwards, but I’m so much happier than I was. Take care of your body and it will take care of you. You deserve the best of what life offers, and that starts with you being your best self. I don’t know what that looks like for me yet, but I damn sure plan to find out. Stay humble. 🔨
Stay down til you come up. 📈📊 . . . I started this year saying I was going to make $600,000, publish a book, buy a house & tour the world for my doc series. I set a crazy bar for myself thinking it would ignite a flame I hadn’t found. Really it set the bar so high that it was unrealistic. I focused more on the destination than I did the (work and healing) necessary to get there. Then life hit me like a jackhammer and I lost all my steam. Somehow I managed to keep pushing and make SOMETHING happen, but it was only a fraction of what I was capable of. I dropped the ball on projects, I lost people close to me, and I damn near lost my mind in the process. But I’m still here. “Still standing, still strong. And I always will be.” This year showed me that you have to be honest about who and where you are, as well as deal with your mistakes and downfalls constructively in order to achieve any goals you set. I beat myself up the whole year, not realizing that it took guts to even attempt what I did. I set a bar and fell way short. I felt like I embarrassed myself, but the point was I TRIED. Now I have a benchmark for myself and as I close out the year, I’m taking my strides smarter yet equally as aggressive as I did in January. The difference is now I’m honest and clear about who I am and what I can/can’t do. I don’t need approval, I don’t need permission, I don’t need applause. I do what I do because my heart tells me to and because I don’t want anybody I love to want for ANYTHING. I was put on this planet for a purpose. I just had to forgive myself, face my weaknesses and get outta my own way. The last convo I had with my mom was November 20th 2017. She told me through tears, “I gave you wings, so fly.” A year later, I feel cleared for take off. 🚀 Stay humble.
“If you’re sailing a ship with no destination, the wind won’t excite you.” ⛵️. . . Direction: guidance or supervision of action or conduct. You ever feel lost? As if you don’t know where you’re going or what your life is leading you to? I feel like we all have a desire to have direction. We want to know where we are going and why. It’s also important that we aren’t following too much of someone else’s direction. Your heart desires fulfillment, so the moment you follow someone else’s direction over yours, you are sacrificing that fulfillment in place of there’s. Most of this last year I spent building my own expectations. I found myself frustrated and dealing with consequences from things I didn’t want to do in the first place. The wins weren’t fulfilling and I was left feeling empty everyone I thought it woulda been time to rejoice. Your happiness or lack thereof is a result of YOUR actions and thoughts. Take ownership, enjoy where you are....so you can enjoy where you’re going. 🗺 🚨 New podcast coming Wednesday. Click the link in my bio to check out some of the others in the meantime. Thank you for your support and encouragement. It means more than you know. 🙏🏾